Viewing Failure as Feedback

Have you really looked at how people walk to their destination?

Or how a boat reaches its final point?

Along the way, aiming for that particular end point, we encounter many "disturbances" that cause us to deviate from the main flow.

While walking, you will notice, if you pay attention, that we continuously skew away from the straight line to the destination.

BUT we managed to steer back and continue walking to our final target.

Some people call these deviations "Failures".

Some call them "Feedbacks".

What is the differences?

Definitely the latter perception is a positive one.
It generates interest in moving forward, taking the message as input for correction.

When you view the deviation (input) as failure, you hammered yourself down into the ground.
You will not enjoy the journey, whether walking or rowing the boat.

Staying positive amidst all the disturbances keep you enthusiastic about finding more.
It keeps you informed. It helps you reach your goals.

It is a matter of viewing the message.
It is possible to change your mindset and perception of things.

Therefore it will be good if you start looking at things on the bright side, viewing feedbacks without "failures" starting today.

Do you agree with me this is a better choice?

Happy feedbacks.  Cheers!

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Knowledge And Application

Have you ever wondered why you remain the same after attending many upgrading courses or reading tons of materials?

You find that the action taken by you, for the sake of improvement, did not reap the desired or expected results.

Why?

You have understood the materials read or learned. And even been awarded a certification for the course attended.

You are suppose to be the expert now.
You are better informed and knowledgeable.

But why the poor performance?

One answer may lies in that you are keeping the information or knowledge picked up.
You are not using it.
You are just storing the newly acquired knowledge in your brain literally.

To be a better person, a renewed person, you have to use the information.
You have to apply the knowledge gained somewhere.

That "somewhere" has to be an area whereby you can demonstrate and monitor the results after application of the knowledge.

Keeping everything will just be that. Status quo, no change or minimum change.

You need to make use of the information, review its application and do modification or customise the usage to add value to the knowledge.

You need to process the materials acquired. You need to "test" the information through some applications.

Examples:

• Do a project after picking up some programming language.
• Perform a dance after learning some new steps.
• Teach and be challenged by students / colleagues after discovering some new techniques.

Taking action and using the knowledge or skill improves productive and allows you to be efficient.

Keep trying and use information. Do not stop at "just knowing".

Learn ==> Use ==> Re-learn ==> Use

Through this concept of applying new knowledge, your desire to self-improve will definitely reap results.

The results may not be what you expected, but it will still be an answer to an action taken by you. And this is valuable feedback for further actions.

That is what self-improvement is all about.  Don't you agree?

Cheers to a better you!

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Being Brave In Times of Hardship

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Looking at imminent problems may be taxing when you know that they cannot be avoided or resolved.

Two things can be done then.
1) Completely ignore the fact and move on as though they did not exist
2) Face the fact and move on in reality

Choice one may be good in the short term, but may results in accumulated negative impact later.
Choice two is down to earth, feeling the pain upfront but growing stronger later.

Being brave takes energy.
Choice two needs a stronger amount of energy.

Being realistic reflects maturity. Shallowing pride demonstrates strength in understanding.

Failure to meet goals meant more hardwork to be factor in.
As such, failure meant delayed success.

Being brave will see results later.
Staying on track and remaining focus will be good objectives to keep one going.

Things will be brighter along the way.
There will go ups and downs, a cycling effect at play.

Just look forward and move on in times of hardship.
Select happiness and not drown yourself in sorrow.

You have a choice in life.
Being happy or sad.

Know that everyone goes through this one time or another.
Know that you are not alone.

Be brave.

Understanding Imperfection

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Since our school days, we are exposed to the number 100% which represents full mark or perfect score.

It is a wonderful thing to have. Almost everyone wants it.

Looking good is also a nice thing to have.
Barbie dolls are models for young girls to emulate.

We thus grow up in a "nice" world.

What then is imperfection?
Can you accept imperfection?

Demands in work for high standard these days aligns everyone for the perfection.
A slight deviation can be picked up and be the talk of the day.

To err is human.
Does this sound familiar?

Understanding imperfection is a realistic step to understanding people.

Though we do strive for the best, we need to know that we are not perfect.
A certain amount of slack will happen one time or another.

Do you blame yourself for any hiccups?
Try not.

Understand that you are afterall human.
You will feel better having this knowledge.

The key is to try your very best, but do not expect it to be perfect always.

Hope this article can lessen the pressure of daily life, and
to understand the meaning of being perfectly imperfect.

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Removing Dependancy

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When we were young, we looked towards our elders for guidance.
When we were school-going, we looked at our peers and teachers for direction.
When we are working now, who do we look for?

The dependacy mindset is always within us.
We look for support. We fear. We need help.

It becomes a mental block.
Without support, we cannot progress on our own.

We lose confidence.
We cannot do without given direction.

Now the question, "Is it healthy in the long run, habouring this type of mindset"?

Can we be guiding than being guided?
I believe we can.
It all depends on which option we prefer.

Removing dependacy, removes the need to seek direction from others.
We become a thinker, a planner and a leader.

We think out new ideas.
We plan for directions to achieve the ideas (objectives).
We lead towards our ideas.

Along the way, you will discover people following you.
People will look upon you to depend themselves on.
They seek advice from you.
You become their mentor.

Do you see the change with the removal of dependacy?

You grow.
You learn and improve through contemplating.
You self-explore and experiment new initiative never done before.

You will feel a more confident you.
You will be more daring.
You will find the fun of exploration.

You self-improve.

That is life.

Make full use of your life.
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Sincerity Towards Others

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We live in a world of ever-changing environment.
We meet different people now and then.

They exist anywhere. Be it the office, the school, the market, or even your neighbour.

Do you treat them like strangers?
Or do you welcome them into your life?

Relations are build not in one day.
To have strong bond and rappor, we need to know each other.

To break the ice, (in a fast way), we need to be sincere.

Sincere in the sense that we do not view each other with suspicious motive.
Treat them as they are, and accept them and align as we go on.

Understand that every people has their own personality, their own character and behaviour.

Being sincere opens up our defence to others.
It is mutual.
It may not be instant, but it will come.

The respect and trust for each other is an important part of human relationship.

Time will always tell if the person is really sincere or plain entertaining.

To treasure a specific relationship, practice sincerity.
It matters.

People are social beings. The sincerity will reciprocate, though maybe in another form.
But it will come. 

Happiness will also follow suit.

Have a happy sincere day ahead!
Cheers  :-D

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Dwelling on the Past Instead of Future

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It is very often that we look back into the past and wonder why some events happen only to us.

It is even more bitter when the events were not happy ones.

For those happenings, we tend to question the why's.
We cannot accept the fact that we are involved and not others.
We felt let down or demoralised.

But is it necessary to ask why?
Will it helps?

It may be better if we go for the "what" than the "why" for most of these instances.

What I meant is the learning part or the lesson to be picked up for those incidents.

Dwelling on the past and wondering "why" is just simply recalling the sad situation and remaining status quo.
No progress is made with such action.

Rather understand the happenings and seek the "what" to be learned.
This way improvement is made and you will be delighted with yourself for learning and experiencing life.

You will not be dragged down by the past but be boosted with new lesson learned.

Move forward after learning the lesson and strive for self-improvement.

Past is past, we have only the future to look forward to.

Cheers and ...  don't forget to feed my cheerful and happy fishes (on the left ). Thanks.

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