Everybody longs and seeks for success. It makes them happy and comfortable.
If you ever ask anyone why they avoid failure, they will always give you a stern look.
Why?
Because it may seems that you are testing their level of self-esteem.
Failure does pull down confidence. It destroys plans. It drags your you down emotional for a period of time.
Who likes failure?
Thus doing new and unfamiliar task becomes an issue to be avoided.
After all what is wrong being in a comfort zone? Nothing will be wrong, and nothing will fail.
Status quo. No change.
Then what?
Times do change and lifestyle, technology and many others changes everyday.
If there is no action on your part to explore new things, you will become history very fast.
Accept failure.
Accept the fact that doing new things will result in failure. This is where you start to learn.
This is where you will find fun!
Learning through failure is one way out of many methods to pick up something new.
But is a common method to improve oneself.
Daring to fail is the key. Love failure. It exposes you honestly. You will be opened up. You will find that failure in your every eyes a wonderful thing to have. It lets you find the truth after the feedback.
Think over this. Be truthful to yourself.
If there is no action and remaining with the present, or worst, the past, you will finally lost yourself to the ever-changing world.
Wake up friends. Do your part and dare to fail. :-)
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Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Doing Meaningful Things
In a mad rush to complete things, we are sometimes, if not every time, caught doing tasks that we do not understand why they exist in the first place.
This occurs frequently and is picking up fast these days. Be mindful.
Example: Too many leaders or bosses giving differing directions.
It makes one wonder whether do the leaders themselves know what they want.
I believe you have come across this type of scenario before.
It makes you wonder what is wrong and a burning desire to stop moving in this direction.
What to do and how to react?
The first and foremost step, I suppose, is to be clear in one's mind.
Are you doing things for a reason, or blindly doing it since everyone else is doing it too.
Give meaning to the tasks. If you cannot find one, then why are you doing it?
Seek out the reason or understand the needs to do it.
However, in the working life, sometimes we are caught in between.
To secure the current job and completing a task that may not lead to your own personal goals but only to serve others' goals. (Sound familiar?)
In this situation, since we are living in a community, the better approach is to complete it as fast as you can, but of course within acceptable quality and standard, as agreed.
This will rid you of hanging onto tasks that carry "no" meaning (to you).
If possible, try to negotiate or convince the other party to align or attach true reasons for doing the work.
In short, do not waste time doing things that do not serve you in the long run. Be prudence.
Do meaningful things.
Stay truly alive. :-)
This occurs frequently and is picking up fast these days. Be mindful.
Example: Too many leaders or bosses giving differing directions.
It makes one wonder whether do the leaders themselves know what they want.
I believe you have come across this type of scenario before.
It makes you wonder what is wrong and a burning desire to stop moving in this direction.
What to do and how to react?
The first and foremost step, I suppose, is to be clear in one's mind.
Are you doing things for a reason, or blindly doing it since everyone else is doing it too.
Give meaning to the tasks. If you cannot find one, then why are you doing it?
Seek out the reason or understand the needs to do it.
However, in the working life, sometimes we are caught in between.
To secure the current job and completing a task that may not lead to your own personal goals but only to serve others' goals. (Sound familiar?)
In this situation, since we are living in a community, the better approach is to complete it as fast as you can, but of course within acceptable quality and standard, as agreed.
This will rid you of hanging onto tasks that carry "no" meaning (to you).
If possible, try to negotiate or convince the other party to align or attach true reasons for doing the work.
In short, do not waste time doing things that do not serve you in the long run. Be prudence.
Do meaningful things.
Stay truly alive. :-)
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Understanding Imperfection
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Since our school days, we are exposed to the number 100% which represents full mark or perfect score.
It is a wonderful thing to have. Almost everyone wants it.
Looking good is also a nice thing to have.
Barbie dolls are models for young girls to emulate.
We thus grow up in a "nice" world.
What then is imperfection?
Can you accept imperfection?
Demands in work for high standard these days aligns everyone for the perfection.
A slight deviation can be picked up and be the talk of the day.
To err is human.
Does this sound familiar?
Understanding imperfection is a realistic step to understanding people.
Though we do strive for the best, we need to know that we are not perfect.
A certain amount of slack will happen one time or another.
Do you blame yourself for any hiccups?
Try not.
Understand that you are afterall human.
You will feel better having this knowledge.
The key is to try your very best, but do not expect it to be perfect always.
Hope this article can lessen the pressure of daily life, and
to understand the meaning of being perfectly imperfect.
:-)
Since our school days, we are exposed to the number 100% which represents full mark or perfect score.
It is a wonderful thing to have. Almost everyone wants it.
Looking good is also a nice thing to have.
Barbie dolls are models for young girls to emulate.
We thus grow up in a "nice" world.
What then is imperfection?
Can you accept imperfection?
Demands in work for high standard these days aligns everyone for the perfection.
A slight deviation can be picked up and be the talk of the day.
To err is human.
Does this sound familiar?
Understanding imperfection is a realistic step to understanding people.
Though we do strive for the best, we need to know that we are not perfect.
A certain amount of slack will happen one time or another.
Do you blame yourself for any hiccups?
Try not.
Understand that you are afterall human.
You will feel better having this knowledge.
The key is to try your very best, but do not expect it to be perfect always.
Hope this article can lessen the pressure of daily life, and
to understand the meaning of being perfectly imperfect.
:-)
Friday, February 5, 2010
Honesty Removes Relational Barrier
Ever wonder why some people has more friends than others?
And that you find some people easier to talk to or you are comfortable talking to?
It may not be instantaneous, but comes after some period of knowing the person.
Why is it so?
One reason lies in that the person you dealt with consistently give you reliable and honest information. The information shared is straightly frank.
Or a honest answer without the need to dig into hidden agenda.
In these days of hectic and chaotic lifestyle, having a honest answer makes you feel comfortable. You need not have to think hard. There are more things and matters requiring your attention.
I believe all these scenarios are not unfamiliar to you.
Being truthful and honest has its value.
If you practice and believe in this form of behaviour, there is high chance that people will like you.
(This makes you happy).
You will have people approaching you for advice and help. You are deemed a "friend" where they can get reliable answer.
Honesty, thus, removes relational barrier. And indirectly it makes you a channel of communication.
This outcome do let you remain clean in your thoughts and behaviour towards others. People will move with you. They trust your feedback.
Hence to have good companion, do the correct things and automatically, good things will come for you, including people who value you.
Practice that, and you will understand what I mean.
Cheers to honesty, and self-improvement for a better future.
:-)
And that you find some people easier to talk to or you are comfortable talking to?
It may not be instantaneous, but comes after some period of knowing the person.
Why is it so?
One reason lies in that the person you dealt with consistently give you reliable and honest information. The information shared is straightly frank.
Or a honest answer without the need to dig into hidden agenda.
In these days of hectic and chaotic lifestyle, having a honest answer makes you feel comfortable. You need not have to think hard. There are more things and matters requiring your attention.
I believe all these scenarios are not unfamiliar to you.
Being truthful and honest has its value.
If you practice and believe in this form of behaviour, there is high chance that people will like you.
(This makes you happy).
You will have people approaching you for advice and help. You are deemed a "friend" where they can get reliable answer.
Honesty, thus, removes relational barrier. And indirectly it makes you a channel of communication.
This outcome do let you remain clean in your thoughts and behaviour towards others. People will move with you. They trust your feedback.
Hence to have good companion, do the correct things and automatically, good things will come for you, including people who value you.
Practice that, and you will understand what I mean.
Cheers to honesty, and self-improvement for a better future.
:-)
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Finding Excuses
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Have you wonder why some people progress in life better than others?
Do you find them "action" people?
I personally find that they do produce results after some effort on their part. The result though may not be exceptionally good. But they do have outcomes!
Why then do some others stay put and make little progress if any?
I noticed that these latter group of people tend to find excuses to cover their lack of interest to upgrade.
They tend to give all sort of reasons to hide behind their weakness and pretend to be "great".
Some even go to the extend of openly declaring that they don't understand, therefore will not do anything.
What results is status quo! No progress is made.
What should be done is to remove the obstacles blocking the understanding. Pick up more fundamental subjects related to the topics. Read anything leading to the issue or ask for help. Take action!
Simply changing the mindset to clear any hindrance will be half a battle won.
The firm mindset to learn and self-improve will last a long time till old age.
This is a skill precious enough to set example for your predecessor. They will respect you!
Do not find any more excuses when you meet with obstacles. Take initiatives and move forward with a positive attitude. In summary be honest.
Hope this post will push anyone who stay put to jump start self-improvement.
Cheers!
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Have you wonder why some people progress in life better than others?
Do you find them "action" people?
I personally find that they do produce results after some effort on their part. The result though may not be exceptionally good. But they do have outcomes!
Why then do some others stay put and make little progress if any?
I noticed that these latter group of people tend to find excuses to cover their lack of interest to upgrade.
They tend to give all sort of reasons to hide behind their weakness and pretend to be "great".
Some even go to the extend of openly declaring that they don't understand, therefore will not do anything.
What results is status quo! No progress is made.
What should be done is to remove the obstacles blocking the understanding. Pick up more fundamental subjects related to the topics. Read anything leading to the issue or ask for help. Take action!
Simply changing the mindset to clear any hindrance will be half a battle won.
The firm mindset to learn and self-improve will last a long time till old age.
This is a skill precious enough to set example for your predecessor. They will respect you!
Do not find any more excuses when you meet with obstacles. Take initiatives and move forward with a positive attitude. In summary be honest.
Hope this post will push anyone who stay put to jump start self-improvement.
Cheers!
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Saturday, May 2, 2009
Be Realistic With Yourself and Others
There is a trap when you set goals for yourself and others.
Ambition and lack of patience may be the causes. Aiming too high without due concern for resources (time and necessary skills) can make or break the outcome.
Planning carefully, covering as many aspects of the objectives, will be a wiser approach when dealing with setting goals.
Ultimately, be realistic, especially when the outcome involves many others too.
Check the time frame to pick up new skills and the resources needed along the process.
Cater for the learning journey.
Factor in human behaviour towards challenging tasks.
Look into yourself,and your confidence level to complete the mission.
Be truly you.
Again, be realistic.
But what if the setting is fixed and has to progress on?
Firstly, do not point finger.
This will cause more harm than saving the situation. At times of this stressful condition, everyone needs motivation to get on.
Secondly, have an open communication.
Keeping to yourself and doing it alone will be tough. Communicate your ideas as you go along. Others may have better strategies to manage the problems or process. Open communication in the genuine sense, makes for better long-term rapport later on.
Even when no solutions can be found for the questions, as least you know that you have tried finding for one. Hunt for another approach. Internet, magazines, forum, etc are good places to get information leads.
Thirdly, know that you have to do it and avoid negative thoughts.
Staying positive is a good sign to progress. Negative thoughts will only pull you down or slow your down. Be strong. Know that you are a better person with every steps ahead. Even failure is a little lesson in itself. Staying stagnant, and blaming the situation is not productive. Things will not move forward if wrong thoughts fused into your thinking.
Being mature and realistic, though not easy, is also not difficult to handle. Just stay positive.
Self-motivate yourself consistently.
Even when the whole thing does not make it finally, I guarantee that you have achieve much internally through going the tough road. It is the strength within you that make a better you. Develop it!
Cheers to self-improvement!
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Ambition and lack of patience may be the causes. Aiming too high without due concern for resources (time and necessary skills) can make or break the outcome.
Planning carefully, covering as many aspects of the objectives, will be a wiser approach when dealing with setting goals.
Ultimately, be realistic, especially when the outcome involves many others too.
Check the time frame to pick up new skills and the resources needed along the process.
Cater for the learning journey.
Factor in human behaviour towards challenging tasks.
Look into yourself,and your confidence level to complete the mission.
Be truly you.
Again, be realistic.
But what if the setting is fixed and has to progress on?
Firstly, do not point finger.
This will cause more harm than saving the situation. At times of this stressful condition, everyone needs motivation to get on.
Secondly, have an open communication.
Keeping to yourself and doing it alone will be tough. Communicate your ideas as you go along. Others may have better strategies to manage the problems or process. Open communication in the genuine sense, makes for better long-term rapport later on.
Even when no solutions can be found for the questions, as least you know that you have tried finding for one. Hunt for another approach. Internet, magazines, forum, etc are good places to get information leads.
Thirdly, know that you have to do it and avoid negative thoughts.
Staying positive is a good sign to progress. Negative thoughts will only pull you down or slow your down. Be strong. Know that you are a better person with every steps ahead. Even failure is a little lesson in itself. Staying stagnant, and blaming the situation is not productive. Things will not move forward if wrong thoughts fused into your thinking.
Being mature and realistic, though not easy, is also not difficult to handle. Just stay positive.
Self-motivate yourself consistently.
Even when the whole thing does not make it finally, I guarantee that you have achieve much internally through going the tough road. It is the strength within you that make a better you. Develop it!
Cheers to self-improvement!
.
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Honestly Living
I believe everyone has done things against your conscious.
You are not willing, but circumstances forced you to do it.
How do you feel?
Do you feel good or rotten?
The answer is clear and obvious.
Why do you feel bad?
It is because you have a conscious. A knowledge that you are tied down by rules and regulations.
Then how?
Should you continue with it and stay on doing things against your wish?
You can choose to change your environment and rid yourself of the nasty tasks. But this may be temporary. Similar happenings may surface again in your new environment.
As long as there are people, you will face this sort of things sooner or later.
What is more permanent is the handling of your feelings.
Look towards the bright side of things.
Accepting that this is part of living.
Change your mindset towards the task.
Know that you are doing something fine though it is not to your liking.
Be honest with yourself. Seek understanding from yourself.
If the task is way above your ability to handle emotionally, drop it for the sake of a long-term merit.
Remember that practice makes perfect.
If you practice staying with things you dislike, you will perfect staying with things you dislike!
Live honestly. You have only one life. Be truthful with yourself.
Don't force yourself too much if the going is too tough for you to take, especially if it goes against your principles.
You may lost something temporarily from the defiance, but you stand to gain in the long-run.
Be prudence, though.
Stay rationale. Think before you leap.
"Be honest and live honestly with yourself" should be your guide.
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You are not willing, but circumstances forced you to do it.
How do you feel?
Do you feel good or rotten?
The answer is clear and obvious.
Why do you feel bad?
It is because you have a conscious. A knowledge that you are tied down by rules and regulations.
Then how?
Should you continue with it and stay on doing things against your wish?
You can choose to change your environment and rid yourself of the nasty tasks. But this may be temporary. Similar happenings may surface again in your new environment.
As long as there are people, you will face this sort of things sooner or later.
What is more permanent is the handling of your feelings.
Look towards the bright side of things.
Accepting that this is part of living.
Change your mindset towards the task.
Know that you are doing something fine though it is not to your liking.
Be honest with yourself. Seek understanding from yourself.
If the task is way above your ability to handle emotionally, drop it for the sake of a long-term merit.
Remember that practice makes perfect.
If you practice staying with things you dislike, you will perfect staying with things you dislike!
Live honestly. You have only one life. Be truthful with yourself.
Don't force yourself too much if the going is too tough for you to take, especially if it goes against your principles.
You may lost something temporarily from the defiance, but you stand to gain in the long-run.
Be prudence, though.
Stay rationale. Think before you leap.
"Be honest and live honestly with yourself" should be your guide.
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Saturday, January 31, 2009
Safe Way To React When Lost In Decision-Making
There are plenty of decisions to be made daily. Some are critical while some as not.
Mentally the decisions may be easy or they may be tough.
Some decisions are for long-term purpose while some are short-term in nature.
Good decision making skill is therefore needed and crucial for anyone.
Experience is a major factor in making good decision that has less disruption and is effective.
But there are times when we are totally lost. It may be due to confusion, or not having a good rest the previous night,or there may be family problems, etc.
How should we handle this situation?
We are all human to start off. No blaming or negative thoughts to the inability to make a decision should come into the picture.
Understand the situation and the impact of the decision.
If it is not time critical, leave it for further consideration. Know that a quick and rush decision is not a good choice. Wait till more information can be gathered to assist in making the decision.
Ensure that the mind is clear before a good-quality direction can be decided.
Re-visit the consideration only when you are comfortable and fine, and ready.
Talk to more people involved with similar incidents, and analyse their experience.
Balance the pro and cons. Be "real" and honest.
Question whether you are able to absorb the failure when outcome does not meet expectation.
No point in getting through a decision-making for the sake to satisfy and close the case.
The outcome may come back and haunt you later on. Be realistic and be responsible.
When the decision is time-sensitive, use your available knowledge with advise from anyone present, if possible, to come out with a conclusion. A safe way is to give a temporary answer to move forward but allow for adjustment when more information pours in.
After that, realise that you have done your best, given the tight situation. Praise yourself and prepare to monitor the process.
In these days of hectic schedule, "trying your best" is a key word. Learn and gather as much information as possible during normal time for the purpose of making better decision when the time calls for it.
Do be honest and factor in realistic, down-to-earth information before committing to a decision.
Be happy after that.
Cheers to better decision-making.
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Mentally the decisions may be easy or they may be tough.
Some decisions are for long-term purpose while some are short-term in nature.
Good decision making skill is therefore needed and crucial for anyone.
Experience is a major factor in making good decision that has less disruption and is effective.
But there are times when we are totally lost. It may be due to confusion, or not having a good rest the previous night,or there may be family problems, etc.
How should we handle this situation?
We are all human to start off. No blaming or negative thoughts to the inability to make a decision should come into the picture.
Understand the situation and the impact of the decision.
If it is not time critical, leave it for further consideration. Know that a quick and rush decision is not a good choice. Wait till more information can be gathered to assist in making the decision.
Ensure that the mind is clear before a good-quality direction can be decided.
Re-visit the consideration only when you are comfortable and fine, and ready.
Talk to more people involved with similar incidents, and analyse their experience.
Balance the pro and cons. Be "real" and honest.
Question whether you are able to absorb the failure when outcome does not meet expectation.
No point in getting through a decision-making for the sake to satisfy and close the case.
The outcome may come back and haunt you later on. Be realistic and be responsible.
When the decision is time-sensitive, use your available knowledge with advise from anyone present, if possible, to come out with a conclusion. A safe way is to give a temporary answer to move forward but allow for adjustment when more information pours in.
After that, realise that you have done your best, given the tight situation. Praise yourself and prepare to monitor the process.
In these days of hectic schedule, "trying your best" is a key word. Learn and gather as much information as possible during normal time for the purpose of making better decision when the time calls for it.
Do be honest and factor in realistic, down-to-earth information before committing to a decision.
Be happy after that.
Cheers to better decision-making.
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Thursday, September 18, 2008
Accepting Self-Ignorance
Not knowing much of a topic is really bad. It slows you down and taxes you mentally.
Nobody like to be ignorant in the positive sense. Of course, some people do, on purpose, feign ignorance.
However, for self-improvement to be effective, the first thing you have to do is to acknowledge that you cannot know everything.
Just by the very fact that you can say " I do not know this" is a clear signal to yourself that you are truthfully being honest with yourself. This is important and key to self-improvement.
To improve yourself, you need to recognise what you lack in. By knowing this vacuum, you can then patch up the space. Accepting ignorance, is thus, a good thing and should be practiced for the sake of bettering yourself.
Have you come across people who claim to know a certain topic but upon questioning, avoided giving the answer upfront?
Do you think they can learn and really pick up new skill?
They have assumed that they knew the topic and skill. It may be half-complete knowledge, that has blinded their mind. It is a path to be avoided. They are not being honest with themselves. It could be due to their self-pride, or some past experiences. But their learning is, hence, obstructed through this inappropriate mindset.
Therefore, to ensure continuous improvement, it is not wrong to claim ignorance and nothing to be shameful of. Stay positive and honest with yourself for the notion that once the knowledge and skill has been acquired, you are a better person. You gain respect as a result too.
Nobody like to be ignorant in the positive sense. Of course, some people do, on purpose, feign ignorance.
However, for self-improvement to be effective, the first thing you have to do is to acknowledge that you cannot know everything.
Just by the very fact that you can say " I do not know this" is a clear signal to yourself that you are truthfully being honest with yourself. This is important and key to self-improvement.
To improve yourself, you need to recognise what you lack in. By knowing this vacuum, you can then patch up the space. Accepting ignorance, is thus, a good thing and should be practiced for the sake of bettering yourself.
Have you come across people who claim to know a certain topic but upon questioning, avoided giving the answer upfront?
Do you think they can learn and really pick up new skill?
They have assumed that they knew the topic and skill. It may be half-complete knowledge, that has blinded their mind. It is a path to be avoided. They are not being honest with themselves. It could be due to their self-pride, or some past experiences. But their learning is, hence, obstructed through this inappropriate mindset.
Therefore, to ensure continuous improvement, it is not wrong to claim ignorance and nothing to be shameful of. Stay positive and honest with yourself for the notion that once the knowledge and skill has been acquired, you are a better person. You gain respect as a result too.
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