Sunday, October 30, 2011

Benefits of Pain for Self-improvement

Getting and welcoming pain?

This is a horrible question to ask!

Who likes to have pain?
It is uncomfortable.
It makes one uneasy.
Nobody likes pain.

We know that.

However, do you also know that we will react upon getting pain?

We will tend to find all sort of solutions or excuses to avoid getting pain.

It keeps you on your toe.
It helps you fight your way out of feeling terrible.

You see the benefit of pain now?
Yes, pain does helps, in the proper sense, of course.

No pain no gain. Remember?

Sometimes it is pain that drives us strongly towards being a better person and a better life.

To break out of poverty, to break out of stagnation, we will force ourselves to work hard and to discover new ways of doing things, new technology, new friends, new knowledge, etc.

The catch is to find that pain to improve yourself.

I have come across many people who stay happy go lucky in life. Good for them.

However, do you want this type of life?
It is your choice.

For me, I feel bored after some time. I feel rotten. I feel that I should be more than present.

Where then is the pain?
There are few ways.
My humble suggestions as follows:-
  • You may compare with your peer. See where they are now, and where are you compared with them. By salary, by status, by achievement, by number of kids, you name it....
  • You may check out (online) what is the latest know-how in your area of expertise. How do you fair compared with them? Do you feel embarrassed after the comparison?
  • Think of your past achievements and check your present status. Have you grown better? Or have your stayed as-it-is since the past 5 years?
All these suggestions are NOT to cut you down for low self-esteem.
They are to throw some light to you.
They are to wake you up.

Don't dwell in fantasy. Seek the pain, the good pain that cures your inertia, physical or mental.

Improve yourself means improving your surroundings too.
This surroundings are your family members, your friends, your company, your community, and your country. The list will go on.
The impact is great.

I seem to be talking BIG. But give a moment to reflect on this post. Give me your feedback in the comment section, if you have. I welcome them.

But remember, the wise man's "No pain No gain" still exist.

:-)     or rather  :-(


Saturday, October 8, 2011

Living in Relativity

Life is a complex blend of happiness and sadness. At one time, we are happy and the next, we may be sad.

However, to reflect clearly, it all comes from our relative comparisons and expectations.
We think that we are unfortunate in some instance. But is it really true?
By comparing to a “better” person, we are unfortunate. But if we set our reference to one that is worst, are we fortunate?
Thus, our mind calls the shot. We select how we feel
If we are physically ill, do we give up and let nature takes it course?

Cancer, stroke or heart problems are common nowadays.
How do we deal with it? Brighten up or dim off?
Help is always at hand and provided we are keen to know the issue.

Self-improvement is a continuous process regardless of mental or physical state.

I am lucky to know of a person, Jackie Clark, who has enlightened me on the issue of cancer.
It sort of waked me up to the relative state we are constantly in.

Here I present to you her sharing on how a cancer diagnosis changes a person's life.

How a Cancer Diagnosis Changes a Person's Life
By: Jackie Clark
Cancer is a disease that people do not truly understand unless it happens to them. Every year, there are millions of people who hear the scary words "you have cancer." Prostate, breast, colon and cervix are some of the most common forms of cancer being diagnosed today. Mesothelioma is one of the least common forms of cancer, but the number of people being diagnosed with has increased drastically in the past few years. The mesothelioma life expectancy is only about eighteen months, but the prognosis depends greatly on the patient.

People who have cancer are afraid because they do not know what their future holds. They do not know whether they will be able to do the things they once enjoyed. Cancer patients do not even know if they will wake up the next morning. Loved ones of a cancer patient are also affected. Sadly, cancer does not just affect the patient but others around them as well. Losing a friend, spouse, mother, father or child is a pain that cannot be described. Those who are close to someone who has cancer worry constantly about their loved one.

People who have cancer have to endure months and perhaps years of painful treatments. Cancer also causes hair and weight loss, which can make a person feel self-conscious. Many cancer patients also feel guilty because they feel as though they are being a burden to their family and friends.

There is no way that the pain of a cancer diagnosis can be taken away. However, one of the things that cancer patients can do that can potentially be beneficial is seeing a life coach. Life coaches are trained professionals who help people deal with the challenges of life. Life coaches can help cancer patients overcome depression. They can also help the patients develop a more positive self-image. The family members of cancer patients can also potentially benefit from life coaching. The benefits of a life coach seem never ending. The guidance and insight these professionals provide truly help cancer patients and their family members heal both physically and mentally.

People who have heard the devastating words "you have cancer" know that their lives will never be the same. Cancer patients, face a world of uncertainty, but fortunately they do not have to go down that road alone. Family members, friends and life coaches are available to help people go through that terrifying ordeal.

:-) Count your blessings.