Saturday, January 31, 2009

Safe Way To React When Lost In Decision-Making

There are plenty of decisions to be made daily. Some are critical while some as not.

Mentally the decisions may be easy or they may be tough.

Some decisions are for long-term purpose while some are short-term in nature.

Good decision making skill is therefore needed and crucial for anyone.

Experience is a major factor in making good decision that has less disruption and is effective.

But there are times when we are totally lost. It may be due to confusion, or not having a good rest the previous night,or there may be family problems, etc.

How should we handle this situation?

We are all human to start off. No blaming or negative thoughts to the inability to make a decision should come into the picture.

Understand the situation and the impact of the decision.

If it is not time critical, leave it for further consideration. Know that a quick and rush decision is not a good choice. Wait till more information can be gathered to assist in making the decision.
Ensure that the mind is clear before a good-quality direction can be decided.
Re-visit the consideration only when you are comfortable and fine, and ready.

Talk to more people involved with similar incidents, and analyse their experience.
Balance the pro and cons. Be "real" and honest.
Question whether you are able to absorb the failure when outcome does not meet expectation.

No point in getting through a decision-making for the sake to satisfy and close the case.
The outcome may come back and haunt you later on. Be realistic and be responsible.

When the decision is time-sensitive, use your available knowledge with advise from anyone present, if possible, to come out with a conclusion. A safe way is to give a temporary answer to move forward but allow for adjustment when more information pours in.

After that, realise that you have done your best, given the tight situation. Praise yourself and prepare to monitor the process.

In these days of hectic schedule, "trying your best" is a key word. Learn and gather as much information as possible during normal time for the purpose of making better decision when the time calls for it.

Do be honest and factor in realistic, down-to-earth information before committing to a decision.

Be happy after that.
Cheers to better decision-making.


Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Motivational Factor

Everyone needs motivation at times.

This is especially so when you are exhausted and need a bit of an emotional push to get you on.

However, motivation come in two forms, namely, short term and the long term motivation.

Short term may be linked to completing a task or studies. You just need a praise from someone to get on with the work, or a token of appreciation to hammer on.

Long term motivation is the more critical form of the two.

This motivation is the one that drives you on throughout your life.

Is money a factor of motivation?
Or it is knowledge?
Does power and authority excites you?

These are some of the examples of motivation factors that you question yourself.

Until you know very well what drives you on, you will be confuse about your direction in life.

You may be wandering from getting power to capturing knowledge, and then moving on to earning more money. What is your dominant motivational factor?

To achieve self-improvement successful, you need to identify this crucial item in yourself.

Only through self-evaluation and reviewing of your interest and inclination, you can then know what really matter to you.

It can be a hybrid between all, but the one that ignites you, when you are down, has to be the one that you are comfortable with.

Thus to be on the path of improvement, seek this motivational factor of yours. This will then be your guiding beam to lead you onto the path of wonders.

Being truthful is happiness.


Thursday, January 22, 2009

Understanding Others

Confucius once said " It is not the understanding of us by others, but the understanding of others by us that matters".

To know how others think and react is a skill everyone should have to live harmoniously together. We live in a community of people.

People have their own thoughts and interpretations of events happening daily. They form and educate themselves through these daily encounters.

Each and everyone, thus, grow in diversified direction with clash of ideas at times.

There is no right or wrong. Each has their own explanation to outcomes and happenings.

So how do we judge others?
Or should we let others judge us?

If you are honest and up-right, there is no fear of being mis-understood by others in the long run. They may get the wrong impression initially, but overtime, they will realise who you are.

Therefore, is it important to market ourselves aggressively and hope that others will appreciate us?

Rather than wanting people to understand us, why not spend time understanding others?

Knowing people around us and their in-depth personalities, will help us maintain a good relation with them. Rapport and mutual co-operation can then exist. Teamwork will be enhanced as a result. Frictions will be reduced through the close understanding of others and their behaviours.

Therefore , strive to look into others rather than creating opportunities for others to look into you. They will want to know you if they find your desirable. Fear not.

Stay happy and cheerful for a lively future....

:) Mary had a little lamb, little lamb........


Saturday, January 17, 2009

Avoidance Mindset

It is human nature to avoid difficulties when given the chance.

We will find all sorts of excuses to cover our fears and weaknesses.

If there is a shortcut to get way or solve the issue, we will go for it.

We avoid problems!

However, are we doing ourselves a disservice?

Yes, we fear trouble.
We may not be able to face the consequences of failure.
We dare not accept the fact that we are weak. It affects our pride and confidence.

But, honestly, speaking, what do we get out of avoiding?

The answer is that we stay put. Status quo. No progress.

To move forward and accept whatever challenge that we face is in the long run, good for us.
We are moving closer to a better us. We may not reach it in one step, or in one assigned task or project.

But we are at least closer than if we avoid it totally.
We are improving at whatever pace, if we do not avoid the challenge.

Be brave and strive ahead in the name of self-improvement.
We will be happier in the end.


Friday, January 9, 2009

Loving Yourself

Self-inflicted injuries means not loving yourself.

Why cause harm to yourself?

Don't you treasure yourself?

The injuries may not be physical but emotional.

Self-blame can cause injuries to your soul.

It is damaging. With constant blaming, you will spiral downwards.

Love yourself.

If you have tried your best, you will fully understand that whatever failure that follow suit can not be excused.

Even if others do not accept your excuse, you are the best person to accept it yourself.

No one is better in understanding you than yourself.

If you have your reason for doing a particular thing, you are the best person to know why.
No words can clearly express what you think.

Therefore, love yourself and take care of yourself.

You are the only one in the world. The are no TWO you.

As long as you think you are sincere and good in doing, praise yourself. No need for others to chip in. It will only be a bonus if they do that.

Having this mindset will enable you to love yourself well, independent of external factors.
In this way, you will strive to improve and treasure yourself more.

:-) (-:

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Acknowledging That Not All Will Like You

Do you try to please everyone ?

Do you like to make friends by catering to their needs?

Do you wish to be liked by everyone?

Though the answer is a YES, it is not possible in real life.

Is it that important to be liked or loved?

We live in a world full of emotional people. People have their own likes and dislikes. We should not impose our desire onto others. Therefore, we should not expect others to do like us.

They have a choice.

Knowing this is good.

At least you will feel better.

But most importantly, LIKE YOURSELF.

This is the best that you can do.

:-) Cheers to yourself. Hurray!


Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Effects of Too Many "Why"s.

Asking questions is a positive step to understand and learn about things.

You will find out more through the "why"s.

Whether you get any answer out of the asking does not matter. What matters is that you start to think. Through questioning, you start to piece up the whole picture.

But does that mean you can start asking "Why" to any subject?

Is it ok to question every steps of a purchasing process?
Is it ok to ask for reasons to every written statements in a report?

Any sane person will give a definite "No" to the above questions.


Because by answering every "why"s, you may take days to truly understand the whole picture.

If the process is for simple purchase, why dig deep to save a few dollars and waste unnecessary time and resources that can be make good in other area.

The saving in this simple purchase may not warrant the saving in man-hour pay!

Judgement in this decision-making area calls for careful thinking, balancing what is important over what is necessary.

Asking too many "why"s, sometimes hinder work flow, rendering frustration and causes inefficiency to the system.

Knowing when to question in a timely manner is a skill that has many benefits.
Strive to understand the elements of situational emphasis.

Is it money or time in this instance?
Is it a necessity or a desire for this matter?

Balance the conditions and place logic into the decision-making process.
This will help guide anyone to be a better self-improved person.

Prudence counts.


Thursday, January 1, 2009

Better Late Than Never

"Better Late Than Never".

This is a common saying that informs us of the importance of being there.

As long as you are not there, you will not be able to obtain first-hand information.

While the reverse, even when you are late, you can at least be better off than those who did not even turn up.

In life, this principle applies.

Do not think that when you are old, everything does not matter.
It still does!

Everything in this world moves and changes fast.
Staying stagnant means not being able to capture the latest.

Your kids will stay away from you.
Your grandson will avoid you.


You are out of synchronising with them.
They will find it hard to talk with you.
They live in a different era from you when you stay put.

For work-wise, technologies and way of working changes. Expectation changes.
Dare you stay still? You must be a hero! An extinct hero if you are.

Go for self-improvement!

Keep moving, mentally, even when you are slow. At least you are not far back.

Remember the race between the hare and tortoise.
With perseverance, the tortoise can still win the hare.