Sunday, November 11, 2012

Trust | Fundamental to Self-Improvement

Do you notice that when you are alone on the road to self-improve, you are solely responsible to your own learning?

This is very real.

Whatever goes into your brain determines your future action. With this new action, behaviour will change.

What are you learning?
Is the training material appropriate?
Do I trust the trainer and his material?

The above questions are important during the path of improvement.
You do want correct and relevant information, right?

However, the trust of your trainer is a very sensitive issue.
Do you TRUST his teaching?

If you do, he must have convinced you well. But do check his material off-line though.
Any reputable trainer has something good to share. He will not be there talking non-sense.
If in doubt, give him the benefit of the doubt first before checking and filtering the relevance.

The other case of trust is that you disbelief his teaching.
Question yourself.
If you are taking a course and you do not trust the words of the trainer, what more can you do?

As a learner, especially when you are alone, the only inputs are from somewhere else.
(Unless you re-invent some new materials !)
If you do not trust the trainer, how then do you improve.

If you do not trust the material, learning stops there right away.
You may be right. And terminates the learning if you have true doubt over the teaching.

But if you are caught, just note down whatever in question and starts to filter through after the session. This is, in fact, a crucial part of self-improvement; the selection of relevant material for acceptance.

In summary, TRUST is a very important step in learning and self-improving. If you start of doubting the words and material of the trainer, you are putting yourself in a disadvantaged position while the others move forward. Trust first and filter later will at least allow you to capture whatever the trainer is willing to share and for you to digest.

:-) Think about my point.  Comments welcomed.


Saturday, February 25, 2012

Understanding Situations

We as human do get angry easily.
We jump to conclusion very fast.
We assume we are correct most of the time.

We do not read situation as clearly as it may be.
We do not often understand situation before we make judgement.

Am I honest enough?

I was reflecting on a past incident and it made me laugh at myself, shamefully of course.
They allowed me to start seeing things in another angle.
And another new lesson to learn.

What happened then?

I put some candies on the dining table before going for a shower.
When I came back, I discovered my young daughter eating the candies.
They are not meant for her!
So I started scolding her.....

Now upon reading that situation again, I discovered one funny issue.
Whose kids do not like eating candies?
I suppose every kids!

So, when my kid saw the candies, is it a very natural behavioural instinct to eat them?

Who is then the "source" of the issue?
I placed the candies where she can have access to.
I invited her!

I should be scolding myself, not her.  (So sorry, daughter)

I then recall another situation.
Similar but now it was not my daughter that ate the candies.

I placed candies on the table.
Ants came and had their share of the goodies.

Why did I not scold the ants as I would scold my daughter.

It is because I knew that I did the wrong thing since it is common knowledge that ants eat anything sweet.

I had assumed that my kid was an adult and can think and act as an adult.
Therefore I scolded her.
But I forgot that she is a (3-year-old) kid.

If I had understood the situation then I would not lost my temper and should even be happy because I have a normal kid that like candies.

Thus my lesson is to understand situation before jumping to conclusion and making inappropriate decision.

Do you all agree with me now?

(By the way, though I did not scold the ants, I killed them! Isn't that worst off!...)