tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14453809022916592462024-03-13T10:33:00.491-07:00Self-ImprovementThis blog serves to inspire people to self-improve themselves. With improvement comes value.Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.comBlogger176125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-50436778188645042252013-11-15T05:53:00.000-08:002013-11-15T05:53:39.450-08:00Focusing on Main task<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There are many challenges we face nowadays.</span><div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Things keep on piling up, and fast coming. The pace is never slowing down.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">To absorb all that come along is madness. Hence to stay sane, focus.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Focus is to scope down the importance.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">What is then the importance to you?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">For some, the importance is more towards self.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Others is towards the community.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">No right and no wrong. It is a matter of preference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">However, there are tasks that lead to rewards.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Thus, are the rewards the main task for one to aim for?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It may be the motivational element for you to direct your energy, but can it sustain?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Is it the real, true element that make you feel good?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Realize the true meaning of doing something.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If you do something well, rewards will come naturally.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Focusing on the rewards will, henceforth, be a deviation from the main task.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It will not be sustainable. It will drain energy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Doing and focusing on the main issue will always be the true meaning of doing something, and doing it well.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Trying to aim for the rewards of doing something will normally make the main task less prominent in the mind of the doer. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Be honest and focus on the main task. Do not sway and be tempted for rewards.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Self-improvement is a serious truly pure upgrading of oneself.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The worst thing is to cheat oneself and think highly of it. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Stay clear of that intention.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">. :-)</span></div>
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Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-32111779823693592092013-05-12T07:15:00.002-07:002013-05-12T07:15:57.995-07:00Daring to Fail<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Everybody longs and seeks for success. It makes them happy and comfortable.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If you ever ask anyone why they avoid failure, they will always give you a stern look.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Why?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Because it may seems that you are testing their level of self-esteem.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Failure does pull down confidence. It destroys plans. It drags your you down emotional for a period of time.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Who likes failure?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Thus doing new and unfamiliar task becomes an issue to be avoided. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">After all what is wrong being in a comfort zone? Nothing will be wrong, and nothing will fail.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Status quo. No change.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Then what?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Times do change and lifestyle, technology and many others changes everyday.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If there is no action on your part to explore new things, you will become history very fast.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Accept failure.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Accept the fact that doing new things will result in failure. This is where you start to learn.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This is where you will find fun!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Learning through failure is one way out of many methods to pick up something new. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But is a common method to improve oneself.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Daring to fail is the key. Love failure. It exposes you honestly. You will be opened up. You will find that failure in your every eyes a wonderful thing to have. It lets you find the truth after the feedback.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Think over this. Be truthful to yourself. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If there is no action and remaining with the present, or worst, the past, you will finally lost yourself to the ever-changing world.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Wake up friends. Do your part and dare to fail. :-)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-83103553015555662762012-11-11T05:58:00.001-08:002012-11-11T05:58:54.538-08:00Trust | Fundamental to Self-Improvement<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Do you notice that when you are alone on the road to self-improve, you are solely responsible to your own learning?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This is very real.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Whatever goes into your brain determines your future action. With this new action, behaviour will change.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">What are you learning?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Is the training material appropriate?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Do I trust the trainer and his material?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">The above questions are important during the path of improvement.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">You do want correct and relevant information, right?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">However, the trust of your trainer is a very sensitive issue.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Do you TRUST his teaching?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">If you do, he must have convinced you well. But do check his material off-line though.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Any reputable trainer has something good to share. He will not be there talking non-sense.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">If in doubt, give him the benefit of the doubt first before checking and filtering the relevance.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">The other case of trust is that you disbelief his teaching.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Why?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Question yourself.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">If you are taking a course and you do not trust the words of the trainer, what more can you do?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">As a learner, especially when you are alone, the only inputs are from somewhere else.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">(Unless you re-invent some new materials !)</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">If you do not trust the trainer, how then do you improve.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">If you do not trust the material, learning stops there right away.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">You may be right. And terminates the learning if you have true doubt over the teaching.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">But if you are caught, just note down whatever in question and starts to filter through after the session. This is, in fact, a crucial part of self-improvement; the selection of relevant material for acceptance.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">In summary, TRUST is a very important step in learning and self-improving. If you start of doubting the words and material of the trainer, you are putting yourself in a disadvantaged position while the others move forward. Trust first and filter later will at least allow you to capture whatever the trainer is willing to share and for you to digest.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">:-) Think about my point. Comments welcomed.</span><br />
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<br />Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-85402109309690102882012-02-25T07:28:00.000-08:002012-02-25T07:28:53.376-08:00Understanding Situations<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">We as human do get angry easily.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">We jump to conclusion very fast.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">We assume we are correct most of the time.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">We do not read situation as clearly as it may be.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">We do not often understand situation before we make judgement.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Am I honest enough?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">I was reflecting on a past incident and it</span><span style="font-family: Arial;"> made me laugh at myself, shamefully of course.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">They allowed me to start seeing things in another angle.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">And another new lesson to learn.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">What happened then?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">I put some candies on the dining table before going for a shower.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">When I came back, I discovered my young daughter eating the candies.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">They are not meant for her!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So I started scolding her.....</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Now upon reading that situation again, I discovered one funny issue.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Whose kids do not like eating candies?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">I suppose every kids!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">So, when my kid saw the candies, is it a very natural behavioural instinct to eat them?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Yes.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Who is then the "source" of the issue?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Me! </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">I placed the candies where she can have access to. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">I invited her!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">I should be scolding myself, not her. (So sorry, daughter)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">I then recall another situation.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Similar but now it was not my daughter that ate the candies.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">I placed candies on the table.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Ants came and had their share of the goodies.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Why did I not scold the ants as I would scold my daughter.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">It is because I knew that I did the wrong thing since it is common knowledge that ants eat anything sweet.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">I had assumed that my kid was an adult and can think and act as an adult.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Therefore I scolded her. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">But I forgot that she is a (3-year-old) kid.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">If I had understood the situation then I would not lost my temper and should even be happy because I have a normal kid that like candies.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: Arial;"><strong>Thus my lesson is to understand situation before jumping to conclusion and making inappropriate decision.</strong></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Arial;">Do you all agree with me now?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">(By the way, though I did not scold the ants, I killed them! Isn't that worst off!...)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">.</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-87837129649174204802011-12-20T22:20:00.000-08:002011-12-20T22:20:11.132-08:00Purpose of Learning<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Self-improvement of oneself is a noble cause.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">It allows us to grow to contribute and share.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Learning comes with an objective.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">"Where will the learning be applied?" takes the main role in every development.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">However, in real life, do we really follow what is mentioned above?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">We go for training every now and then.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">We learn new things, picked up new knowledge, and return back to where we are and then ....</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">We filled up our minds with unnecessary things as a result.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">If we do not make use of our learning, then why are we learning?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Learning has to have deliverable.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It gets us working through the effort we put into developing ourselves.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d; font-family: Arial;">If there is learning, but no application for it, we have only one thing to do.</span><br />
<span style="color: #38761d; font-family: Arial;">That is, DO NOT attend the learning.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">To keep us clear-minded and focus on the current, we have to stay clear in our thoughts.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">All the saying of upgrading and improving ourselves do not hold water if we go for these "trainings" and come back status quo.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">It is simply plain wastage of time and money (if any).</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It causes our brain to create a false impression of ourselves improving.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">The end result should be the applications of what we have picked up and situation changes for the better.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">This is true learning.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Hence, go for improvement when you have a real need for it.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">That is the <strong>purpose of learning</strong>, a simple logic.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Cheers! :-)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">.</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-84303291033151207392011-10-30T07:36:00.000-07:002011-10-30T07:40:10.487-07:00Benefits of Pain for Self-improvement<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Getting and welcoming pain?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">This is a horrible question to ask!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Who likes to have pain?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It is uncomfortable.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It makes one uneasy.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Nobody likes pain.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">We know that.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">However, do you also know that we will react upon getting pain?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">We will tend to find all sort of solutions or excuses to avoid getting pain.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">It keeps you on your toe.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It helps you fight your way out of feeling terrible.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">You see the benefit of pain now?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Yes, pain does helps, in the proper sense, of course.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;"><span style="background-color: white; color: orange; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>No pain no gain.</strong></span> Remember?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Sometimes it is pain that drives us strongly towards being a better person and a better life.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">To break out of poverty, to break out of stagnation, we will force ourselves to work hard and to discover new ways of doing things, new technology, new friends, new knowledge, etc.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">The catch is to find that pain to improve yourself.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">I have come across many people who stay happy go lucky in life. Good for them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">However, do you want this type of life?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It is your choice. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">For me, I feel bored after some time. I feel rotten. I feel that I should be more than present.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Where then is the pain?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There are few ways. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">My humble suggestions as follows:-</span><br />
<ul><li><span style="font-family: Arial;">You may compare with your peer. See where they are now, and where are you compared with them. By salary, by status, by achievement, by number of kids, you name it....</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial;">You may check out (online) what is the latest know-how in your area of expertise. How do you fair compared with them? Do you feel embarrassed after the comparison?</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial;">Think of your past achievements and check your present status. <a href="http://improvingoneself.blogspot.com/2008/03/level-of-self-expectation.html">Have you grown better</a>? Or have your stayed as-it-is since the past 5 years?</span></li>
</ul><span style="font-family: Arial;">All these suggestions are NOT to cut you down for low self-esteem. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">They are to throw some light to you.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">They are to wake you up.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Don't dwell in fantasy. Seek the pain, the good pain that cures your inertia, physical or mental.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Improve yourself means improving your surroundings too.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">This surroundings are your family members, your friends, your company, your community, and your country. The list will go on.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">The impact is great.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">I seem to be talking BIG. But give a moment to reflect on this post. Give me your feedback in the comment section, if you have. I welcome them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">But remember, the wise man's "No pain No gain" still exist.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">:-) or rather :-(</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">.</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-14506550895433808442011-10-08T08:49:00.000-07:002011-10-08T09:28:07.386-07:00Living in Relativity<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Life is a complex blend of <a href="http://improvingoneself.blogspot.com/2009/08/what-is-happiness.html"><span style="color: blue;">happiness</span></a> and sadness. At one time, we are happy and the next, we may be sad. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">However, to reflect clearly, it all comes from our relative comparisons and expectations.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">We think that we are unfortunate in some instance. But is it really true?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">By comparing to a “better” person, we are unfortunate. But if we set our reference to one that is worst, are we fortunate?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Thus, our mind calls the shot. We select how we feel</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If we are physically ill, do we give up and let nature takes it course?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Cancer, stroke or heart problems are common nowadays.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">How do we deal with it? Brighten up or dim off?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Help is always at hand and provided we are keen to know the issue. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Self-improvement is a continuous process regardless of mental or physical state.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I am lucky to know of a person, <a href="http://jackieclarkdailyarc.blogspot.com/"><span style="color: blue;">Jackie Clark</span></a>, who has enlightened me on the issue of cancer.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It sort of waked me up to the relative state we are constantly in.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Here I present to you her sharing on how a cancer diagnosis changes a person's life.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>How a Cancer Diagnosis Changes a Person's Life</strong> </span><br />
<strong><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">By: Jackie Clark</span></strong><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Cancer is a disease that people do not truly understand unless it happens to them. Every year, there are millions of people who hear the scary words "you have cancer." <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001418/"><span style="color: blue;">Prostate</span></a>, breast, colon and cervix are some of the most common forms of cancer being diagnosed today. <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001418/"><span style="color: blue;">Mesothelioma</span></a> is one of the least common forms of cancer, but the number of people being diagnosed with has increased drastically in the past few years. The mesothelioma <a href="http://www.mesothelioma.com/mesothelioma/prognosis/life-expectancy.htm"><span style="color: blue;">life expectancy</span></a> is only about eighteen months, but the prognosis depends greatly on the patient.</span> <br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">People who have cancer are afraid because they do not know what their future holds. They do not know whether they will be able to do the things they once enjoyed. Cancer patients do not even know if they will wake up the next morning. Loved ones of a cancer patient are also affected. Sadly, cancer does not just affect the patient but others around them as well. Losing a friend, spouse, mother, father or child is a pain that cannot be described. Those who are close to someone who has cancer worry constantly about their loved one.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">People who have cancer have to endure months and perhaps years of painful treatments. Cancer also causes <a href="http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/coping/chemo-side-effects/hairloss"><span style="color: blue;">hair and weight loss</span></a>, which can make a person feel self-conscious. Many cancer patients also feel guilty because they feel as though they are being a burden to their family and friends.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There is no way that the pain of a cancer diagnosis can be taken away. However, one of the things that cancer patients can do that can potentially be beneficial is seeing a life coach. Life coaches are trained professionals who help people deal with the challenges of life. Life coaches can help cancer patients overcome depression. They can also help the patients develop a more positive <a href="http://improvingoneself.blogspot.com/"><span style="color: blue;">self-image</span></a>. The family members of cancer patients can also potentially benefit from life coaching. The benefits of a life coach seem never ending. The guidance and insight these professionals provide truly help cancer patients and their family members heal both physically and mentally.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">People who have heard the devastating words "you have cancer" know that their lives will never be the same. Cancer patients, face a world of uncertainty, but fortunately they do not have to go down that road alone. Family members, friends and life coaches are available to help people go through that terrifying ordeal.</span><br />
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:-) Count your blessings.<br />
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.Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-88769675677661252011-09-14T08:20:00.000-07:002011-09-14T08:20:56.460-07:00Doing Meaningful Things<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In a mad rush to complete things, we are sometimes, if not every time, caught doing tasks that we do not understand why they exist in the first place.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">This occurs frequently and is picking up fast these days. Be mindful.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Example: Too many leaders or bosses giving differing directions. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It makes one wonder whether do the leaders themselves know what they want.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">I believe you have come across this type of scenario before.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">It makes you wonder what is wrong and a burning desire to stop moving in this direction.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">What to do and how to react?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">The first and foremost step, I suppose, is to be clear in one's mind.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Are you doing things for a reason, or blindly doing it since everyone else is doing it too.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Give meaning to the tasks. <span style="color: red;">If you cannot find one, then why are you doing it?</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Arial;">Seek out the reason or understand the needs to do it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">However, in the working life, sometimes we are caught in between.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">To secure the current job and completing a task that may not lead to your own personal goals but only to serve others' goals. (Sound familiar?)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">In this situation, since we are living in a community, the better approach is to complete it <u>as fast as you can</u>, but of course within acceptable quality and standard, as agreed.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">This will rid you of hanging onto tasks that carry "no" meaning (to you).</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">If possible, try to negotiate or convince the other party to align or attach true reasons for doing the work.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">In short, do not waste time doing things that do not serve you in the long run. Be prudence.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Do meaningful things.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Stay truly alive. :-)</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-68653679679931978732011-06-15T08:35:00.000-07:002011-06-15T08:35:01.505-07:00All Action Has Consequences<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In life, we are always presented with choices. These choices will require actions to reach a certain objectives or goals.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Deciding which is the correct choice becomes a challenge.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Taking a wrong action results in reaching the wrong destination.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">While taking a correct one helps us fulfill our wish.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">All action has thus a consequence, or consequences.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">To be a better person, we has therefore to acquire a suite of self-improvement tools.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">One of them will be the ability to decide properly the actions to be taken for a certain purpose.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Thinking and deciding skills becomes critical for that matter.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">How do we think?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">This question seems "cute" to some. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">But if you really dig into this question, you will find that it is not an easy question to answer.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">I do not have the answer.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">But I strongly believe that if you can connect as many facts or experience together, you will likely be able to achieve a suitable result through proper actions.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">If someone anger you, what do you do?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Do you shout back at him?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Do you start throw any objects you can reach at him?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Or do you cool down and review the situation before you react?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Different actions taken by you will produce different consequence.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Sometimes it is the emotional part that overwrite your mental part.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Which is the correct or suitable cause of actions is more of being aware, at that point in time, of your desire.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">You have to go through a few incidence before you can really master that quick decision for the suitable type of actions.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">This maybe what we call "experience".</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">In short, be aware that any action you take, you will have to face some form of consequence, be it good or bad ones.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">However, if you are unsure, go for the kind and unhurting style. It should not go wrong.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">(Even if it is wrong, you will know that you did it with good intention, :-) )</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">.Cheers.</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-91903904601054503662011-05-31T09:14:00.000-07:002011-05-31T09:14:51.125-07:00Be True to Your Belief<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">On a daily basis we are bombarded with many comments and views from others.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Some are encouraging while some are destructive.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Did you get demoralised?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Stay strong, if you have the urge to submit to the latter.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Why?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It is because if you go the way of accepting that you are "bad", you will lost your esteem as well as confidence.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Stay true to your own belief if you think that what you do is for the good of self and others.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Think and review your intention and desire for certain things that you have been doing that have gotten the red eye of others.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">We cannot avoid the "speech" of people around us but we can choose to ignore or filter the "speech".</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Believe in yourself. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It will make you trust yourself better and happier as a result.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Overtime, with much practice, you will find that you will have the strength to overturn the bad impact and smile over it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So stay tune to your belief and stay sincere to your goodness self.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Cheers and forever happy. :-)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">.</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-60683206895903814492011-03-31T08:46:00.000-07:002011-03-31T08:47:41.733-07:00Viewing Failure as Feedback<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Have you really looked at how people walk to their destination?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Or how a boat reaches its final point?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Along the way, aiming for that particular end point, we encounter many "disturbances" that cause us to deviate from the main flow.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">While walking, you will notice, if you pay attention, that we continuously skew away from the straight line to the destination.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">BUT we managed to steer back and continue walking to our final target.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Some people call these deviations "Failures".</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Some call them "Feedbacks".</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">What is the differences?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Definitely the latter perception is a positive one.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It generates interest in moving forward, taking the message as input for correction.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">When you view the deviation (input) as failure, you hammered yourself down into the ground.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You will not enjoy the journey, whether walking or rowing the boat.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Staying positive amidst all the disturbances keep you enthusiastic about finding more.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It keeps you informed. It helps you reach your goals.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">It is a matter of viewing the message.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It is possible to change your mindset and perception of things.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Therefore it will be good if you start looking at things on the bright side, viewing feedbacks without "failures" starting today.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Do you agree with me this is a better choice?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Happy feedbacks. Cheers!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">.</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-44494953713695809832011-02-06T07:14:00.000-08:002011-02-06T07:14:45.840-08:00Knowledge And Application<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Have you ever wondered why you remain the same after attending many upgrading courses or reading tons of materials?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">You find that the action taken by you, for the sake of improvement, did not reap the desired or expected results.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Why?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">You have understood the materials read or learned. And even been awarded a certification for the course attended.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">You are suppose to be the expert now.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">You are better informed and knowledgeable.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">But why the poor performance?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">One answer may lies in that you are keeping the information or knowledge picked up.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">You are not using it.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">You are just storing the newly acquired knowledge in your brain literally.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">To be a better person, a renewed person, <strong>you have to use the information</strong>.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">You have to apply the knowledge gained somewhere.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">That "somewhere" has to be an area whereby you can demonstrate and monitor the results after application of the knowledge.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Keeping everything will just be that. Status quo, no change or minimum change.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">You need to make use of the information, review its application and do modification or customise the usage to add value to the knowledge.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">You need to process the materials acquired. You need to "test" the information through some applications.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Examples:</span><br />
<ul><li><span style="font-family: Arial;">Do a project after picking up some programming language.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial;">Perform a dance after learning some new steps.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial;">Teach and be challenged by students / colleagues after discovering some new techniques.</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Taking action and using the knowledge or skill improves productive and allows you to be efficient. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Keep trying and use information. Do not stop at "<span style="background-color: yellow;">just knowing".</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Learn ==> Use ==> Re-learn ==> Use </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Through this concept of applying new knowledge, your desire to self-improve will definitely reap results.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">The results may not be what you expected, but it will still be an answer to an action taken by you. And this is valuable feedback for further actions.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">That is what self-improvement is all about. Don't you agree?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Cheers to a better you!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">.</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-7171193590560408712010-05-09T08:43:00.000-07:002010-05-09T08:43:05.796-07:00Being Brave In Times of Hardship'<br />
Looking at imminent problems may be taxing when you know that they cannot be avoided or resolved.<br />
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Two things can be done then.<br />
1) Completely ignore the fact and move on as though they did not exist<br />
2) Face the fact and move on in reality<br />
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Choice one may be good in the short term, but may results in accumulated negative impact later.<br />
Choice two is down to earth, feeling the pain upfront but growing stronger later.<br />
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Being brave takes energy.<br />
Choice two needs a stronger amount of energy.<br />
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Being realistic reflects maturity. Shallowing pride demonstrates strength in understanding.<br />
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Failure to meet goals meant more hardwork to be factor in.<br />
As such, failure meant delayed success.<br />
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Being brave will see results later.<br />
Staying on track and remaining focus will be good objectives to keep one going.<br />
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Things will be brighter along the way.<br />
There will go ups and downs, a cycling effect at play.<br />
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Just look forward and move on in times of hardship.<br />
Select happiness and not drown yourself in sorrow.<br />
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You have a choice in life.<br />
Being happy or sad.<br />
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Know that everyone goes through this one time or another.<br />
Know that you are not alone.<br />
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<strong><span style="color: #b45f06; font-size: large;">Be brave.</span></strong>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-49669356468763345392010-04-28T08:32:00.000-07:002010-04-28T08:32:25.036-07:00Understanding Imperfection'<br />
Since our school days, we are exposed to the number 100% which represents full mark or perfect score.<br />
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It is a wonderful thing to have. Almost everyone wants it.<br />
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Looking good is also a nice thing to have. <br />
Barbie dolls are models for young girls to emulate.<br />
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We thus grow up in a "nice" world.<br />
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What then is imperfection?<br />
Can you accept imperfection?<br />
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Demands in work for high standard these days aligns everyone for the perfection.<br />
A slight deviation can be picked up and be the talk of the day.<br />
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<strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #741b47;">To err is human.</span></strong><br />
Does this sound familiar?<br />
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Understanding imperfection is a realistic step to understanding people.<br />
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Though we do strive for the best, we need to know that we are not perfect.<br />
A certain amount of slack will happen one time or another.<br />
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Do you blame yourself for any hiccups?<br />
Try not.<br />
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Understand that you are afterall human.<br />
You will feel better having this knowledge.<br />
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The key is to try your very best, but do not expect it to be perfect always.<br />
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Hope this article can lessen the pressure of daily life, and<br />
to understand the meaning of being perfectly imperfect.<br />
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:-)Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-3091445863975035102010-04-20T07:49:00.000-07:002010-04-20T07:49:05.453-07:00Removing Dependancy.<br />
When we were young, we looked towards our elders for guidance.<br />
When we were school-going, we looked at our peers and teachers for direction.<br />
When we are working now, who do we look for?<br />
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The dependacy mindset is always within us.<br />
We look for support. We fear. We need help.<br />
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It becomes a mental block.<br />
Without support, we cannot progress on our own.<br />
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We lose confidence.<br />
We cannot do without given direction.<br />
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Now the question, "Is it healthy in the long run, habouring this type of mindset"?<br />
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Can we be guiding than being guided?<br />
I believe we can.<br />
It all depends on which option we prefer.<br />
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Removing dependacy, removes the need to seek direction from others.<br />
We become a thinker, a planner and a leader.<br />
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We think out new ideas.<br />
We plan for directions to achieve the ideas (objectives).<br />
We lead towards our ideas. <br />
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Along the way, you will discover people following you.<br />
People will look upon you to depend themselves on.<br />
They seek advice from you.<br />
You become their mentor.<br />
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Do you see the change with the removal of dependacy?<br />
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You grow. <br />
You learn and improve through contemplating.<br />
You self-explore and experiment new initiative never done before.<br />
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You will feel a more confident you.<br />
You will be more daring.<br />
You will find the fun of exploration.<br />
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You self-improve.<br />
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That is life.<br />
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Make full use of your life.<br />
:-)<br />
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.Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-44544920479148526902010-04-17T10:14:00.000-07:002010-04-17T10:14:20.174-07:00Sincerity Towards Others.<br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">We live in a world of ever-changing environment.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">We meet different people now and then.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">They exist anywhere. Be it the office, the school, the market, or even your neighbour.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Do you treat them like strangers?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Or do you welcome them into your life?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Relations are build not in one day.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">To have strong bond and rappor, we need to know each other.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">To break the ice, (in a fast way), we need to be sincere.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Sincere in the sense that we do not view each other with suspicious motive.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Treat them as they are, and accept them and align as we go on.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Understand that every people has their own personality, their own character and behaviour.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Being sincere opens up our defence to others.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It is mutual.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It may not be instant, but it will come.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">The respect and trust for each other is an important part of human relationship.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Time will always tell if the person is really sincere or plain entertaining.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">To treasure a specific relationship, practice sincerity. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It matters.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">People are social beings. The sincerity will reciprocate, though maybe in another form.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">But it will come. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Happiness will also follow suit.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Have a happy sincere day ahead!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Cheers :-D</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">.</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-8294714417509807882010-04-16T09:09:00.000-07:002010-04-16T09:11:33.076-07:00Dwelling on the Past Instead of Future.<br />
It is very often that we look back into the past and wonder why some events happen only to us.<br />
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It is even more bitter when the events were not happy ones.<br />
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For those happenings, we tend to question the why's.<br />
We cannot accept the fact that we are involved and not others.<br />
We felt let down or demoralised.<br />
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But is it necessary to ask why?<br />
Will it helps?<br />
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It may be better if we go for the "what" than the "why" for most of these instances.<br />
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What I meant is the learning part or the lesson to be picked up for those incidents.<br />
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Dwelling on the past and wondering "why" is just simply recalling the sad situation and remaining status quo.<br />
No progress is made with such action.<br />
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Rather understand the happenings and seek the "what" to be learned.<br />
This way improvement is made and you will be delighted with yourself for learning and experiencing life.<br />
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You will not be dragged down by the past but be boosted with new lesson learned.<br />
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Move forward after learning the lesson and strive for self-improvement.<br />
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Past is past, we have only the future to look forward to.<br />
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Cheers and ... don't forget to feed my cheerful and happy fishes (on the left ). Thanks.<br />
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.Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-10380067501544007982010-04-11T08:08:00.000-07:002010-04-11T08:08:19.695-07:00Side Effects Of Positive Thinking.<br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Trying your best in whatever you do is an example of being positive.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Accepting new challenge or task is another example.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">To be happy, one way is to help people. This is positive thinking.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">But if you are helping too many people, will you still be happy and continuw to stay positive?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Moderation comes in.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Positive thinking is good if you balance your limit to it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Overdoing and exceeding your buffer may do more harm.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">If every single thing has to be accepted in the name of positive thinking, to improve or otherwise, we will go bersek.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">It is counter-productive in nature if ignoring "negative" fact is deemed bad.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Information has to be reviewed and time buffer, and capability studied before going with new challenge.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">It is against the objective if due to being positive, committment is agreed but cannot be fulfilled.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">What then is positive thinking? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">It will pull you down and makes you worried and sad.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Think twice.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Rejecting offer is good to yourself and others if you believe that you are not able to commit to the task.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">It is fair to you and others too.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">It even reflects maturity in your thinking.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Moderate whatever comes along and balance them with existing duties and roles.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Any thing we handle has side effects. There are always advantage and disadvantage in everything.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Be aware of this and less thing will go wrong.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Stay balance and happy , :-)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">.</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-14193114271053080932010-04-02T19:53:00.000-07:002010-04-03T00:06:38.212-07:00Is Problems Useful?*<br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Ever heard of Problem-based learning?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">It implies some usefulness in having problems.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Everyone dread problems. It irritates.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">We are all human, and human tends to aim for comfort.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Problems forces us to re-evaluate our thinking and concept.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Problems disturb the norm and smooth-flowing of process.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">So how do you perceive it as useful when it has so many negative impact psychologically?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">There is no hard and fast rule of re-looking at problems.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">They have to be felt.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">They have to be experienced.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">One good way is to reflect on the final outcome after encountering problems.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Do they improve your performance?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Do they change your mindset or thinking for the better?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Do they force you to be more hardworking to explore new areas?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Or do they simple demoralise you?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Balance the positive and the negative impacts they do to you.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">My bet is that they improve more than wack you down!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Problems are here to stay whether we like it or not.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">It will come back and "remind" you of any wrong-doings.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Probems are not brakes in life. </span><span style="font-family: Verdana;"><span style="color: red;">Problems are <strong>guidelines</strong></span>.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">They align your directions when you deviates unknowingly.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">They recall you back, in a harsh way.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">To reduce your anxiety towards them, see them as aids than foes.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Be aware that they improve situations.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">They disturbs because we, as humans, have mental inertia.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Not that they are of no good.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Change your mindset towards problem and you will definitely see a brighter and cheerful you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Try it, and experience it.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">It wil not be immediate.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Give yourself some time over a defined period of time.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Be consistent and alert to its goodness.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Seek for the learning points in problems.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Treat them well</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana;">and you will treat yourself well.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">Cheers</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana;">:D</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-356146407933259272010-03-25T08:18:00.000-07:002010-03-25T08:18:15.213-07:00Tips On Improving Your Kids Studies.<br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Teaching a kid is a tough job for any teacher or parent.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">The minds of kids are fluctuating now and then, even during studying.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">We can't do much about the mind unless we apply stright discipline.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">This cause resentment and rebellion.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">The negative impact on the freedom demoralises the kid and make studying a chore.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">What is a good tip then to "wake up" and encourage the kid in their study?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">The answer lies in how we get them motivated.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">How do you, in the first place, what others to motivate you?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Using the answer, you can apply it onto the kids.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">One way, for me, is the <strong><span style="color: #741b47;">feel of success</span></strong>.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Motivation comes when you discovered that a certain task assumed to be out-of-reach can be accomplished with some effort.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">The "I made it!" conclusion stimulates.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Apply this aim onto the kids.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">How to go about it?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">1) Get the kids to start of simple. Some hand holding may be necessary.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">2) Guide the kids closely. Showing examples or model answers if possible. This built confidence.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">3) Let the kids pratice a few times of the same type of problems.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">4) Summarise the steps or key points.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">5) Request the kids to repeat your summarised steps.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">6) Give a test question for them to try on their own.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">7) Wait to see their SMILE.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Finally, you will be smiling with them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Be consistent throughout the guidance. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">They can read your mind if you are sincere about training them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Kids are NOT stupid. They are sensing and testing water at times.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Show them you care. They will read you correctly.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Improving this skill and you will be having less resistance teaching your kids.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">:-D Happy tutoring.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">.</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-61810400452773708962010-03-15T08:54:00.000-07:002010-03-15T08:57:20.163-07:00Feeling Demoralised? Try This:-(<br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Feeling down one time or another?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">It is normal though.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">But what have you to do when you are really off your best?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Being demoralised can happen to anyone. Nobody can escape this fact.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Therefore, understand why you are facing this situation when you are down.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Many factors can be the contributors.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">One example can be lack of energy due to depletion of sleep.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It could be that someone is talking bad about you.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">It could be that you are not being appreciated after all the things you have done.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">The list can go on........</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">But you are the one who could pull yourself OUT of the slope!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">If you have ran out of ideas to boost yourself up, the below is one sure way to kick yourself UP.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">***********************************</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Always keep something that you like to do, and that you can do it well.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Reserve this task for time when you are down.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Do the task to bring up your excitement and happy "juice".</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">After sometime on this task, you will find an energetic you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">*************************************</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">This method works for me.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Hope it does to you too.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">However, just remember one thing, </span><br />
<span style="color: #741b47; font-family: Arial;"><strong>"If you want to be down, nobody else can pull you up. You are the best choice".</strong></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">:-) All the Best !</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">*</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-68106182117063979522010-03-11T05:54:00.000-08:002010-03-11T06:01:24.856-08:00Be The Solution and Not The Problem'<br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Problems abound but solutions are rare.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This is a known fact.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Thus to ease obstacles in your daily routine, seek to find solutions.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You will feel better and happier with this mindset.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Being of use to others is a great way to being happy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Normally people reflect problems and simply wait for the solutions to them.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">What will be done?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Nothing, if there is no intention to solve the issue.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Being the solution and getting rid of hindrance will serve us a long way.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Be proactive in looking for methods or techniques to create a conducive environment for life or work.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Change of mindset takes time.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But <b><span style="color: red;">correct attitude has to come first</span></b>.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">With proper attitude, the inertia to start work will be lesser.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Hence, always remember</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"<strong><span style="background-color: #eeeeee; color: #990000;">BE the Solution and NOT the Problem</span></strong>".</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Cheers!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">:-)</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-42689820105339928192010-03-05T20:33:00.000-08:002010-03-05T20:33:24.343-08:00Proper Coverage in Learning Stages'<br />
Learning comes in many stages. Everyone knows that.<br />
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Irregardless of whether the training is the formal or informal type. The various stages are there.<br />
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One stage leads to another.<br />
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If one stage is not properly analyzed or content appropriately understood, their concepts and principles within may not see real results.<br />
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This gaps in learning will flow over to the following stages and disaster will happen.<br />
It may not appear immediately, and may even appear in another stage.<br />
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What does this mean?<br />
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Simply put, outcomes will not be complete.<br />
Concepts may have to be revisited again when mistakes are exposed.<br />
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Why do these gaps happen?<br />
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Many factors, as you may have guessed.<br />
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Yes, human beings are complex.<br />
No one learning style covers all.<br />
And no topic fits only one style.<br />
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It is a case by case issue.<br />
Only the person learning knows what is best for himself.<br />
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Attitude towards learning is the guide.<br />
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But one crucial mistake that is rather common is the "short-cut" method.<br />
Trying to pull a fast one to get an academic paper may be the objective.<br />
Is it proper?<br />
Is it a right thing to do?<br />
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When things are not covered properly to an acceptable level of understanding, flaws in execution using the newly-learned knowledge will be there. <br />
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It may have small impact, if you are lucky.<br />
But what if the otherwise? It could be an explosion!<br />
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Learning is no small matter. <br />
Seriousness counts.<br />
Attitude counts.<br />
And hardworking counts.<br />
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Trying to complete the studies in a short time and taking advantage of others is a dangerous move.<br />
It do not strengthen the correct objectives of the learning.<br />
It strengthens, however, the wrong things.<br />
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Be prudent.<br />
It is our learning and our brain and mind that are affected.<br />
This is more so when you are in self-improvement programme.<br />
You are on your own.<br />
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Think proper.<br />
<br />
:-)Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-67990354343171665482010-02-12T07:40:00.000-08:002010-02-12T07:42:10.280-08:00Focusing On The Positive Aspect'<br />
Everyday do you find yourself being bombarded with new things?<br />
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Do you often feel overloaded with information?<br />
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Or are you asked to carry out tasks meaningless to you?<br />
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To stay sane and happy, there is one thing you have to do.<br />
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==> Focus on the POSITIVE side of things.<br />
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In any situation, some goodies are hidden. It is up to us to look for them.<br />
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Let me tell you a real life story of mine.<br />
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I was once asked to dismantle a number of test jigs. I felt rotten, being asked to do things not in line with the main job in the production line. I was a trainee then, and such, this is a starting point, I presumed.<br />
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I performed the given assignment.<br />
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However, as I was taking apart the panels and connectors, I found out that the test jigs were hooked up in a special way. At that moment I discovered that I have learned a new thing without a teacher.<br />
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If I had closed my mind and attitude towards the "meaningless" task given, I would be skimming through a pile of rubbish. I would not notice the good stuff.<br />
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Later, I was asked to connect up a new tester for a new product, with another technician. I applied the method I picked up while dismantling the test jigs. <br />
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And surprise, the tester that I hooked up worked! <br />
And my counterpart didn't!<br />
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From that experience, I discovered that no matter what task you do, focus on the bright side of things as it is lurking there to be discovered by us.<br />
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Focus on the positive aspect and not dwell on the dull side.<br />
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Cheers.<br />
<br />
.Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1445380902291659246.post-54236390754830534842010-02-05T07:02:00.000-08:002010-02-05T07:07:25.440-08:00Honesty Removes Relational Barrier<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Ever wonder why some people has more friends than others?</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And that you find some people easier to talk to or you are comfortable talking to?</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It may not be instantaneous, but comes after some period of knowing the person.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Why is it so?</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">One reason lies in that the person you dealt with consistently give you reliable and honest information. The information shared is straightly frank.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Or a honest answer without the need to dig into hidden agenda.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In these days of hectic and chaotic lifestyle, having a honest answer makes you feel comfortable. You need not have to think hard. There are more things and matters requiring your attention.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I believe all these scenarios are not unfamiliar to you.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Being truthful and honest has its value.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If you practice and believe in this form of behaviour, there is high chance that people will like you.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">(This makes you happy).</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You will have people approaching you for advice and help. You are deemed a "friend" where they can get reliable answer.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Honesty, thus, removes relational barrier. And indirectly it makes you a channel of communication.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This outcome do let you remain clean in your thoughts and behaviour towards others. People will move with you. They trust your feedback.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Hence to have good companion, do the correct things and automatically, good things will come for you, including people who value you.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Practice that, and you will understand what I mean.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Cheers to honesty, and self-improvement for a better future.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">:-)</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span>Happy Personhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14195054664774537067noreply@blogger.com0