A Tip For Staying Happy

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Have you wondered what makes you unhappy or frustrated?

If you have not, do access the situation whereby your anger starts growing or your behaviour starts going chaotic.

One such instant may be due to time shortage.

To avoid this problem, make room for emergency situation.

This emergency situation may be, like, last minute assignment, falling sick, uninvited visitors, etc.

Thus to prevent getting out of your sense, create enough time freedom in your normal schedule so that you have breathing space.

It is a simple method that requires a bit of time planning.
This technique will have good benefits and will serve you happily if you keep that in mind.

Don't get pressed into a corner. This is the break-point where you get unhappy and frustrated.

Cheers! and Happy Time Planning.

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Help Comes Only When Deserved

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I believe you may have encountered situations where you want to help someone but something is holding you back?

When you wanted to step in and lend a helping hand, something tells you that you should not be doing that.
You will re-look at the situation and then realise that the person you are aiming for may well be better off left alone to fence for himself. He does not deserve anyone's help!

There may be times or most of the times, this person has some negative actions that caused troubles or a drag to others.
It could be a one-way action on the part of the helper (always).
It could be a huge effort to help with a simple task.

As times goes by, people comes to realise that something is wrong.

To seek help, and to deserve help, thus, is not a simple matter.
The person deserving help has to be one deemed to be wanting to help himself first.

He has to put in the correct amount of effort first, and upon meeting obstacle, seek for help.
This practice will result in people noticing it, and then willing to help.

Before help can come, you have to work for it.
After receiving the help, show gratefulness.
If there is a chance, return the favour or help.
The favour or help may not be to the helper, it could be to others in need of similar help or the knowledge gained as a result of the help received.

Help comes and goes. It has to be circulated.
Keeping it and not sharing it, leads to others stopping the help.

Think over this.
It is just simple logic of give and be grateful.

It is a form of self-improvement.

I believe you agree.

Cheers, and Happy New Year!
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Thinking With The Mind

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In life, we make many decisions through thinking.

Some affects our short term goals while some are long-termed.
Some are crucial to the extent that it involved many iterations to get to the correct or suitable conclusion.

How do you think?
Sounds funny, right?

No, I am not playing with you.

Some people think with hopes and wishes.
The wiser lot thinks with the mind!

If you hope for an outcome, you will hope forever.
If you wish for something to come true, it is equivalent to gambling.
It is putting your final outcome to chance.

Thinking with the mind does not involve taking pure chances or resting the decision or say onto others.

Thinking with the mind calls for proper co-ordination with actual proven facts, or dealing with calculated chance when facts are not available.

Do you think with emotion or does your emotion gets in the way of thinking?
We are human.
It is not wrong to sometime couples in emotion into thinking and decision making.

What is proper is that the outcome has to be rationally made based on facts and not visual illusion.
It will be good if you can know what you are driving at.

"Can it be realised?"
That's the question you have to constantly ask yourself along the way.
It checks your thinking against dreaming and hoping.

We dream alot as human. Tell me if you are not!

It is good to dream, but dreaming and thinking is totally different.
Dreaming allows us to aim for the future and maybe the currently impossible.
Thinking with the mind is to resolve or better a situation with facts and figures for a good future.

With this article, I hope I have gotten you thinking.
Or am I wish-thinking?

Any comments?

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Dealing With Failures

Everyone do encounter failure one time or another. Facing it is dreadful. It hurts.

Do you run away from it?
Do you stay strong and face it head-on?

Yes, you may be strong and accept this failure. But what next?

Being able to face and accept failure is good, but is that the end?

Picking up from failure is the key issue, not just staying strong in the face of failure. 

Learning from the mistake made makes you a better person.
Being able to analyse the situation, and review the problem is enlightening to your future.
It makes you smarter.

It is the action taken after the failure that matters.
It is the standing up attitude after the fall that strengthens you.

Fear of failure is, thus, reduced if correct mental approach to it is practiced.

Understand that you cannot and surely cannot avoid making mistake.
Do not be shy.
Learn from sincere asking yourself whether you wish to hide from the fact or truth.

Keep learning and turn failure into a positive journey of self-improvement.

Happy learning.

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Fear of Failure

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What is failure?
How do you view failure?

Failure is a frightening word anyone detest.
Yet it cannot be avoided.

Since we cannot avoid or prevent this from happening, we have to have the courage to face it when it comes along.

Having the courage requires a mindset change.

Does failure needs hopeless?
No. It means that the result did not meet the desired outcome.

Not meeting the targeted objectives does not mean all is lost.
The experience along the way is one good lesson we picked up.

Failure is just a deviation of the intended path.
There is nothing to fear other than the looks of the naives.

Avoid them, for they are the fearful lot.

Jumping into the unknown is a potential risk in meeting failure.
New experience and exposure will be encountered.
New outlook of a certain topic or area of interest will happen.

All this expand your knowledge.

Failure, hence, is a good starting point for you to review your procedures and technique in approaching a goal.

Face it with a positive attitude.
More is gained rather than lost.
Ironically it seems but true!

Fear not failure as it teaches.

Take up any challenge when it comes.
Avoiding it is a no-no strategy.
Avoiding it means you are reversing back to your original status. Status quo!

Do you want living life with no excitement and no new experience?
It is boring.

Think over it.
Think about failure.
Is it that dreadful?
What is the most you can lose? Access the siutation.

Self-improvement is important.
Pull yourself out of the well and look at the beautiful happenings around you.
Learn and face failure squarely.
Love it!

And life will be better.

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Why Character Matters?

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Have you met people who are successful and rich?
Or people who are intellectually one up above you?

How is their character?
Do they give up easily?
Are they fighters?

Most of them, if you observe closely, stay true to their passion.
They do not give up as easily as others when they face obstacles.

They strike on. They read and find out answers.

Ultimately, everything boils down to character.

If you do strongly believe in yourself that you can make it, you will do whatever it takes.
This is character.

If you desire to be number one, and stay on to prepare and nurture with whatever material and resources you have, you have good self-improvement character.

It is the strength within yourself that pushes you on.
You eat humble pie to pursue knowledge.
This is not weakness but vision.

Clear vision comes from a determined character.
An inner voice within yourself calling for a meaningful life.

Hence do good not only to others but also to yourself.
Practice good behaviour and thought.
They will form into habits that will serve you into ripe age.

Therefore, aim for good character as it is the starting point for a better future.
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Simple Way To Gain Trust

Everyone look at each other everytime.

Some try to size you up when you are new to them.

Some may ignore you.

Even when they are your close friends or not-so-close friends, they still do monitor your behaviour and reaction to things and tasks.

What if you are assigned to lead them or mentor them?
Do they trust your ability?
Do they TRUST you?

I believe these are not new questions to you.

So how do you win their trust and get them to co-operate with you?

One simple way is to lead by example.
This, therefore, involves self-improvement.

When you are tasked to work on a project (for example) with a group of people, these team-mates of yours will scan you through thoroughly.
This is for sure!

Do not blame them as it is human nature.

To win their trust, and let them work with you, prove tothem that you can.
Prove to them that you are sincere in working out the role given to you.
Prove to them that you are able and can independently settle problems (within limits, of course).

When you are able to fulfill the above, chances are that you will be respected by them and trust will follow suit.

It is that simple!

Everyone likes to work with people who are deem not to be a burden to them.
Hence if you are able to perform, in their eyes, you will win their trust straight away.

Therefore, self-improve. Everyone is looking at you.

Hope you agree.

Any comments? .......

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