Saturday, February 25, 2012

Understanding Situations

We as human do get angry easily.
We jump to conclusion very fast.
We assume we are correct most of the time.

We do not read situation as clearly as it may be.
We do not often understand situation before we make judgement.

Am I honest enough?

I was reflecting on a past incident and it made me laugh at myself, shamefully of course.
They allowed me to start seeing things in another angle.
And another new lesson to learn.

What happened then?

I put some candies on the dining table before going for a shower.
When I came back, I discovered my young daughter eating the candies.
They are not meant for her!
So I started scolding her.....


Now upon reading that situation again, I discovered one funny issue.
Whose kids do not like eating candies?
I suppose every kids!

So, when my kid saw the candies, is it a very natural behavioural instinct to eat them?
Yes.

Who is then the "source" of the issue?
Me!
I placed the candies where she can have access to.
I invited her!

I should be scolding myself, not her.  (So sorry, daughter)

I then recall another situation.
Similar but now it was not my daughter that ate the candies.

I placed candies on the table.
Ants came and had their share of the goodies.

Why did I not scold the ants as I would scold my daughter.

It is because I knew that I did the wrong thing since it is common knowledge that ants eat anything sweet.

I had assumed that my kid was an adult and can think and act as an adult.
Therefore I scolded her.
But I forgot that she is a (3-year-old) kid.

If I had understood the situation then I would not lost my temper and should even be happy because I have a normal kid that like candies.

Thus my lesson is to understand situation before jumping to conclusion and making inappropriate decision.

Do you all agree with me now?

(By the way, though I did not scold the ants, I killed them! Isn't that worst off!...)

Comments?

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3 comments:

The Producers said...

i agree, you dont want to act hastily. you should always listen to both sides of stories before coming to a conclusion.

Anthony said...

Wise thoughts and ideas, I agree with what you are saying we far to often rush in without thinking things through first

Richa said...

Hey.. so simply you have put a very wise and experienced thought.. :)
Very positive..