Self-improvement of oneself is a noble cause.
It allows us to grow to contribute and share.
Learning comes with an objective.
"Where will the learning be applied?" takes the main role in every development.
However, in real life, do we really follow what is mentioned above?
We go for training every now and then.
We learn new things, picked up new knowledge, and return back to where we are and then ....
We filled up our minds with unnecessary things as a result.
If we do not make use of our learning, then why are we learning?
Learning has to have deliverable.
It gets us working through the effort we put into developing ourselves.
If there is learning, but no application for it, we have only one thing to do.
That is, DO NOT attend the learning.
To keep us clear-minded and focus on the current, we have to stay clear in our thoughts.
All the saying of upgrading and improving ourselves do not hold water if we go for these "trainings" and come back status quo.
It is simply plain wastage of time and money (if any).
It causes our brain to create a false impression of ourselves improving.
The end result should be the applications of what we have picked up and situation changes for the better.
This is true learning.
Hence, go for improvement when you have a real need for it.
That is the purpose of learning, a simple logic.
Cheers! :-)
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Showing posts with label Taking Action. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Taking Action. Show all posts
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Benefits of Pain for Self-improvement
Getting and welcoming pain?
This is a horrible question to ask!
Who likes to have pain?
It is uncomfortable.
It makes one uneasy.
Nobody likes pain.
We know that.
However, do you also know that we will react upon getting pain?
We will tend to find all sort of solutions or excuses to avoid getting pain.
It keeps you on your toe.
It helps you fight your way out of feeling terrible.
You see the benefit of pain now?
Yes, pain does helps, in the proper sense, of course.
No pain no gain. Remember?
Sometimes it is pain that drives us strongly towards being a better person and a better life.
To break out of poverty, to break out of stagnation, we will force ourselves to work hard and to discover new ways of doing things, new technology, new friends, new knowledge, etc.
The catch is to find that pain to improve yourself.
I have come across many people who stay happy go lucky in life. Good for them.
However, do you want this type of life?
It is your choice.
For me, I feel bored after some time. I feel rotten. I feel that I should be more than present.
Where then is the pain?
There are few ways.
My humble suggestions as follows:-
They are to throw some light to you.
They are to wake you up.
Don't dwell in fantasy. Seek the pain, the good pain that cures your inertia, physical or mental.
Improve yourself means improving your surroundings too.
This surroundings are your family members, your friends, your company, your community, and your country. The list will go on.
The impact is great.
I seem to be talking BIG. But give a moment to reflect on this post. Give me your feedback in the comment section, if you have. I welcome them.
But remember, the wise man's "No pain No gain" still exist.
:-) or rather :-(
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This is a horrible question to ask!
Who likes to have pain?
It is uncomfortable.
It makes one uneasy.
Nobody likes pain.
We know that.
However, do you also know that we will react upon getting pain?
We will tend to find all sort of solutions or excuses to avoid getting pain.
It keeps you on your toe.
It helps you fight your way out of feeling terrible.
You see the benefit of pain now?
Yes, pain does helps, in the proper sense, of course.
No pain no gain. Remember?
Sometimes it is pain that drives us strongly towards being a better person and a better life.
To break out of poverty, to break out of stagnation, we will force ourselves to work hard and to discover new ways of doing things, new technology, new friends, new knowledge, etc.
The catch is to find that pain to improve yourself.
I have come across many people who stay happy go lucky in life. Good for them.
However, do you want this type of life?
It is your choice.
For me, I feel bored after some time. I feel rotten. I feel that I should be more than present.
Where then is the pain?
There are few ways.
My humble suggestions as follows:-
- You may compare with your peer. See where they are now, and where are you compared with them. By salary, by status, by achievement, by number of kids, you name it....
- You may check out (online) what is the latest know-how in your area of expertise. How do you fair compared with them? Do you feel embarrassed after the comparison?
- Think of your past achievements and check your present status. Have you grown better? Or have your stayed as-it-is since the past 5 years?
They are to throw some light to you.
They are to wake you up.
Don't dwell in fantasy. Seek the pain, the good pain that cures your inertia, physical or mental.
Improve yourself means improving your surroundings too.
This surroundings are your family members, your friends, your company, your community, and your country. The list will go on.
The impact is great.
I seem to be talking BIG. But give a moment to reflect on this post. Give me your feedback in the comment section, if you have. I welcome them.
But remember, the wise man's "No pain No gain" still exist.
:-) or rather :-(
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Wednesday, June 15, 2011
All Action Has Consequences
In life, we are always presented with choices. These choices will require actions to reach a certain objectives or goals.
Deciding which is the correct choice becomes a challenge.
Taking a wrong action results in reaching the wrong destination.
While taking a correct one helps us fulfill our wish.
All action has thus a consequence, or consequences.
To be a better person, we has therefore to acquire a suite of self-improvement tools.
One of them will be the ability to decide properly the actions to be taken for a certain purpose.
Thinking and deciding skills becomes critical for that matter.
How do we think?
This question seems "cute" to some.
But if you really dig into this question, you will find that it is not an easy question to answer.
I do not have the answer.
But I strongly believe that if you can connect as many facts or experience together, you will likely be able to achieve a suitable result through proper actions.
If someone anger you, what do you do?
Do you shout back at him?
Do you start throw any objects you can reach at him?
Or do you cool down and review the situation before you react?
Different actions taken by you will produce different consequence.
Sometimes it is the emotional part that overwrite your mental part.
Which is the correct or suitable cause of actions is more of being aware, at that point in time, of your desire.
You have to go through a few incidence before you can really master that quick decision for the suitable type of actions.
This maybe what we call "experience".
In short, be aware that any action you take, you will have to face some form of consequence, be it good or bad ones.
However, if you are unsure, go for the kind and unhurting style. It should not go wrong.
(Even if it is wrong, you will know that you did it with good intention, :-) )
.Cheers.
Deciding which is the correct choice becomes a challenge.
Taking a wrong action results in reaching the wrong destination.
While taking a correct one helps us fulfill our wish.
All action has thus a consequence, or consequences.
To be a better person, we has therefore to acquire a suite of self-improvement tools.
One of them will be the ability to decide properly the actions to be taken for a certain purpose.
Thinking and deciding skills becomes critical for that matter.
How do we think?
This question seems "cute" to some.
But if you really dig into this question, you will find that it is not an easy question to answer.
I do not have the answer.
But I strongly believe that if you can connect as many facts or experience together, you will likely be able to achieve a suitable result through proper actions.
If someone anger you, what do you do?
Do you shout back at him?
Do you start throw any objects you can reach at him?
Or do you cool down and review the situation before you react?
Different actions taken by you will produce different consequence.
Sometimes it is the emotional part that overwrite your mental part.
Which is the correct or suitable cause of actions is more of being aware, at that point in time, of your desire.
You have to go through a few incidence before you can really master that quick decision for the suitable type of actions.
This maybe what we call "experience".
In short, be aware that any action you take, you will have to face some form of consequence, be it good or bad ones.
However, if you are unsure, go for the kind and unhurting style. It should not go wrong.
(Even if it is wrong, you will know that you did it with good intention, :-) )
.Cheers.
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Removing Dependancy
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When we were young, we looked towards our elders for guidance.
When we were school-going, we looked at our peers and teachers for direction.
When we are working now, who do we look for?
The dependacy mindset is always within us.
We look for support. We fear. We need help.
It becomes a mental block.
Without support, we cannot progress on our own.
We lose confidence.
We cannot do without given direction.
Now the question, "Is it healthy in the long run, habouring this type of mindset"?
Can we be guiding than being guided?
I believe we can.
It all depends on which option we prefer.
Removing dependacy, removes the need to seek direction from others.
We become a thinker, a planner and a leader.
We think out new ideas.
We plan for directions to achieve the ideas (objectives).
We lead towards our ideas.
Along the way, you will discover people following you.
People will look upon you to depend themselves on.
They seek advice from you.
You become their mentor.
Do you see the change with the removal of dependacy?
You grow.
You learn and improve through contemplating.
You self-explore and experiment new initiative never done before.
You will feel a more confident you.
You will be more daring.
You will find the fun of exploration.
You self-improve.
That is life.
Make full use of your life.
:-)
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When we were young, we looked towards our elders for guidance.
When we were school-going, we looked at our peers and teachers for direction.
When we are working now, who do we look for?
The dependacy mindset is always within us.
We look for support. We fear. We need help.
It becomes a mental block.
Without support, we cannot progress on our own.
We lose confidence.
We cannot do without given direction.
Now the question, "Is it healthy in the long run, habouring this type of mindset"?
Can we be guiding than being guided?
I believe we can.
It all depends on which option we prefer.
Removing dependacy, removes the need to seek direction from others.
We become a thinker, a planner and a leader.
We think out new ideas.
We plan for directions to achieve the ideas (objectives).
We lead towards our ideas.
Along the way, you will discover people following you.
People will look upon you to depend themselves on.
They seek advice from you.
You become their mentor.
Do you see the change with the removal of dependacy?
You grow.
You learn and improve through contemplating.
You self-explore and experiment new initiative never done before.
You will feel a more confident you.
You will be more daring.
You will find the fun of exploration.
You self-improve.
That is life.
Make full use of your life.
:-)
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Friday, April 2, 2010
Is Problems Useful?
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Ever heard of Problem-based learning?
It implies some usefulness in having problems.
Everyone dread problems. It irritates.
We are all human, and human tends to aim for comfort.
Problems forces us to re-evaluate our thinking and concept.
Problems disturb the norm and smooth-flowing of process.
So how do you perceive it as useful when it has so many negative impact psychologically?
There is no hard and fast rule of re-looking at problems.
They have to be felt.
They have to be experienced.
One good way is to reflect on the final outcome after encountering problems.
Do they improve your performance?
Do they change your mindset or thinking for the better?
Do they force you to be more hardworking to explore new areas?
Or do they simple demoralise you?
Balance the positive and the negative impacts they do to you.
My bet is that they improve more than wack you down!
Problems are here to stay whether we like it or not.
It will come back and "remind" you of any wrong-doings.
Probems are not brakes in life. Problems are guidelines.
They align your directions when you deviates unknowingly.
They recall you back, in a harsh way.
To reduce your anxiety towards them, see them as aids than foes.
Be aware that they improve situations.
They disturbs because we, as humans, have mental inertia.
Not that they are of no good.
Change your mindset towards problem and you will definitely see a brighter and cheerful you.
Try it, and experience it.
It wil not be immediate.
Give yourself some time over a defined period of time.
Be consistent and alert to its goodness.
Seek for the learning points in problems.
Treat them well
and you will treat yourself well.
Cheers
:D
Ever heard of Problem-based learning?
It implies some usefulness in having problems.
Everyone dread problems. It irritates.
We are all human, and human tends to aim for comfort.
Problems forces us to re-evaluate our thinking and concept.
Problems disturb the norm and smooth-flowing of process.
So how do you perceive it as useful when it has so many negative impact psychologically?
There is no hard and fast rule of re-looking at problems.
They have to be felt.
They have to be experienced.
One good way is to reflect on the final outcome after encountering problems.
Do they improve your performance?
Do they change your mindset or thinking for the better?
Do they force you to be more hardworking to explore new areas?
Or do they simple demoralise you?
Balance the positive and the negative impacts they do to you.
My bet is that they improve more than wack you down!
Problems are here to stay whether we like it or not.
It will come back and "remind" you of any wrong-doings.
Probems are not brakes in life. Problems are guidelines.
They align your directions when you deviates unknowingly.
They recall you back, in a harsh way.
To reduce your anxiety towards them, see them as aids than foes.
Be aware that they improve situations.
They disturbs because we, as humans, have mental inertia.
Not that they are of no good.
Change your mindset towards problem and you will definitely see a brighter and cheerful you.
Try it, and experience it.
It wil not be immediate.
Give yourself some time over a defined period of time.
Be consistent and alert to its goodness.
Seek for the learning points in problems.
Treat them well
and you will treat yourself well.
Cheers
:D
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Tips On Improving Your Kids Studies
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Teaching a kid is a tough job for any teacher or parent.
The minds of kids are fluctuating now and then, even during studying.
We can't do much about the mind unless we apply stright discipline.
This cause resentment and rebellion.
The negative impact on the freedom demoralises the kid and make studying a chore.
What is a good tip then to "wake up" and encourage the kid in their study?
The answer lies in how we get them motivated.
How do you, in the first place, what others to motivate you?
Using the answer, you can apply it onto the kids.
One way, for me, is the feel of success.
Motivation comes when you discovered that a certain task assumed to be out-of-reach can be accomplished with some effort.
The "I made it!" conclusion stimulates.
Apply this aim onto the kids.
How to go about it?
1) Get the kids to start of simple. Some hand holding may be necessary.
2) Guide the kids closely. Showing examples or model answers if possible. This built confidence.
3) Let the kids pratice a few times of the same type of problems.
4) Summarise the steps or key points.
5) Request the kids to repeat your summarised steps.
6) Give a test question for them to try on their own.
7) Wait to see their SMILE.
Finally, you will be smiling with them.
Be consistent throughout the guidance.
They can read your mind if you are sincere about training them.
Kids are NOT stupid. They are sensing and testing water at times.
Show them you care. They will read you correctly.
Improving this skill and you will be having less resistance teaching your kids.
:-D Happy tutoring.
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Teaching a kid is a tough job for any teacher or parent.
The minds of kids are fluctuating now and then, even during studying.
We can't do much about the mind unless we apply stright discipline.
This cause resentment and rebellion.
The negative impact on the freedom demoralises the kid and make studying a chore.
What is a good tip then to "wake up" and encourage the kid in their study?
The answer lies in how we get them motivated.
How do you, in the first place, what others to motivate you?
Using the answer, you can apply it onto the kids.
One way, for me, is the feel of success.
Motivation comes when you discovered that a certain task assumed to be out-of-reach can be accomplished with some effort.
The "I made it!" conclusion stimulates.
Apply this aim onto the kids.
How to go about it?
1) Get the kids to start of simple. Some hand holding may be necessary.
2) Guide the kids closely. Showing examples or model answers if possible. This built confidence.
3) Let the kids pratice a few times of the same type of problems.
4) Summarise the steps or key points.
5) Request the kids to repeat your summarised steps.
6) Give a test question for them to try on their own.
7) Wait to see their SMILE.
Finally, you will be smiling with them.
Be consistent throughout the guidance.
They can read your mind if you are sincere about training them.
Kids are NOT stupid. They are sensing and testing water at times.
Show them you care. They will read you correctly.
Improving this skill and you will be having less resistance teaching your kids.
:-D Happy tutoring.
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Monday, March 15, 2010
Feeling Demoralised? Try This
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Feeling down one time or another?
It is normal though.
But what have you to do when you are really off your best?
Being demoralised can happen to anyone. Nobody can escape this fact.
Therefore, understand why you are facing this situation when you are down.
Many factors can be the contributors.
One example can be lack of energy due to depletion of sleep.
It could be that someone is talking bad about you.
It could be that you are not being appreciated after all the things you have done.
The list can go on........
But you are the one who could pull yourself OUT of the slope!
If you have ran out of ideas to boost yourself up, the below is one sure way to kick yourself UP.
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Always keep something that you like to do, and that you can do it well.
Reserve this task for time when you are down.
Do the task to bring up your excitement and happy "juice".
After sometime on this task, you will find an energetic you.
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This method works for me.
Hope it does to you too.
However, just remember one thing,
"If you want to be down, nobody else can pull you up. You are the best choice".
:-) All the Best !
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Feeling down one time or another?
It is normal though.
But what have you to do when you are really off your best?
Being demoralised can happen to anyone. Nobody can escape this fact.
Therefore, understand why you are facing this situation when you are down.
Many factors can be the contributors.
One example can be lack of energy due to depletion of sleep.
It could be that someone is talking bad about you.
It could be that you are not being appreciated after all the things you have done.
The list can go on........
But you are the one who could pull yourself OUT of the slope!
If you have ran out of ideas to boost yourself up, the below is one sure way to kick yourself UP.
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Always keep something that you like to do, and that you can do it well.
Reserve this task for time when you are down.
Do the task to bring up your excitement and happy "juice".
After sometime on this task, you will find an energetic you.
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This method works for me.
Hope it does to you too.
However, just remember one thing,
"If you want to be down, nobody else can pull you up. You are the best choice".
:-) All the Best !
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Thursday, March 11, 2010
Be The Solution and Not The Problem
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Problems abound but solutions are rare.
This is a known fact.
Thus to ease obstacles in your daily routine, seek to find solutions.
You will feel better and happier with this mindset.
Being of use to others is a great way to being happy.
Normally people reflect problems and simply wait for the solutions to them.
What will be done?
Nothing, if there is no intention to solve the issue.
Being the solution and getting rid of hindrance will serve us a long way.
Be proactive in looking for methods or techniques to create a conducive environment for life or work.
Change of mindset takes time.
But correct attitude has to come first.
With proper attitude, the inertia to start work will be lesser.
Hence, always remember
"BE the Solution and NOT the Problem".
Cheers!
:-)
Problems abound but solutions are rare.
This is a known fact.
Thus to ease obstacles in your daily routine, seek to find solutions.
You will feel better and happier with this mindset.
Being of use to others is a great way to being happy.
Normally people reflect problems and simply wait for the solutions to them.
What will be done?
Nothing, if there is no intention to solve the issue.
Being the solution and getting rid of hindrance will serve us a long way.
Be proactive in looking for methods or techniques to create a conducive environment for life or work.
Change of mindset takes time.
But correct attitude has to come first.
With proper attitude, the inertia to start work will be lesser.
Hence, always remember
"BE the Solution and NOT the Problem".
Cheers!
:-)
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Dealing With Failures
Everyone do encounter failure one time or another. Facing it is dreadful. It hurts.
Do you run away from it?
Do you stay strong and face it head-on?
Yes, you may be strong and accept this failure. But what next?
Being able to face and accept failure is good, but is that the end?
Picking up from failure is the key issue, not just staying strong in the face of failure.
Learning from the mistake made makes you a better person.
Being able to analyse the situation, and review the problem is enlightening to your future.
It makes you smarter.
It is the action taken after the failure that matters.
It is the standing up attitude after the fall that strengthens you.
Fear of failure is, thus, reduced if correct mental approach to it is practiced.
Understand that you cannot and surely cannot avoid making mistake.
Do not be shy.
Learn from sincere asking yourself whether you wish to hide from the fact or truth.
Keep learning and turn failure into a positive journey of self-improvement.
Happy learning.
:-D
Do you run away from it?
Do you stay strong and face it head-on?
Yes, you may be strong and accept this failure. But what next?
Being able to face and accept failure is good, but is that the end?
Picking up from failure is the key issue, not just staying strong in the face of failure.
Learning from the mistake made makes you a better person.
Being able to analyse the situation, and review the problem is enlightening to your future.
It makes you smarter.
It is the action taken after the failure that matters.
It is the standing up attitude after the fall that strengthens you.
Fear of failure is, thus, reduced if correct mental approach to it is practiced.
Understand that you cannot and surely cannot avoid making mistake.
Do not be shy.
Learn from sincere asking yourself whether you wish to hide from the fact or truth.
Keep learning and turn failure into a positive journey of self-improvement.
Happy learning.
:-D
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Why Character Matters?
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Have you met people who are successful and rich?
Or people who are intellectually one up above you?
How is their character?
Do they give up easily?
Are they fighters?
Most of them, if you observe closely, stay true to their passion.
They do not give up as easily as others when they face obstacles.
They strike on. They read and find out answers.
Ultimately, everything boils down to character.
If you do strongly believe in yourself that you can make it, you will do whatever it takes.
This is character.
If you desire to be number one, and stay on to prepare and nurture with whatever material and resources you have, you have good self-improvement character.
It is the strength within yourself that pushes you on.
You eat humble pie to pursue knowledge.
This is not weakness but vision.
Clear vision comes from a determined character.
An inner voice within yourself calling for a meaningful life.
Hence do good not only to others but also to yourself.
Practice good behaviour and thought.
They will form into habits that will serve you into ripe age.
Therefore, aim for good character as it is the starting point for a better future.
:- D
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Have you met people who are successful and rich?
Or people who are intellectually one up above you?
How is their character?
Do they give up easily?
Are they fighters?
Most of them, if you observe closely, stay true to their passion.
They do not give up as easily as others when they face obstacles.
They strike on. They read and find out answers.
Ultimately, everything boils down to character.
If you do strongly believe in yourself that you can make it, you will do whatever it takes.
This is character.
If you desire to be number one, and stay on to prepare and nurture with whatever material and resources you have, you have good self-improvement character.
It is the strength within yourself that pushes you on.
You eat humble pie to pursue knowledge.
This is not weakness but vision.
Clear vision comes from a determined character.
An inner voice within yourself calling for a meaningful life.
Hence do good not only to others but also to yourself.
Practice good behaviour and thought.
They will form into habits that will serve you into ripe age.
Therefore, aim for good character as it is the starting point for a better future.
:- D
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Saturday, October 10, 2009
Simple Way To Gain Trust
Everyone look at each other everytime.
Some try to size you up when you are new to them.
Some may ignore you.
Even when they are your close friends or not-so-close friends, they still do monitor your behaviour and reaction to things and tasks.
What if you are assigned to lead them or mentor them?
Do they trust your ability?
Do they TRUST you?
I believe these are not new questions to you.
So how do you win their trust and get them to co-operate with you?
One simple way is to lead by example.
This, therefore, involves self-improvement.
When you are tasked to work on a project (for example) with a group of people, these team-mates of yours will scan you through thoroughly.
This is for sure!
Do not blame them as it is human nature.
To win their trust, and let them work with you, prove tothem that you can.
Prove to them that you are sincere in working out the role given to you.
Prove to them that you are able and can independently settle problems (within limits, of course).
When you are able to fulfill the above, chances are that you will be respected by them and trust will follow suit.
It is that simple!
Everyone likes to work with people who are deem not to be a burden to them.
Hence if you are able to perform, in their eyes, you will win their trust straight away.
Therefore, self-improve. Everyone is looking at you.
Hope you agree.
Any comments? .......
:-D
Some try to size you up when you are new to them.
Some may ignore you.
Even when they are your close friends or not-so-close friends, they still do monitor your behaviour and reaction to things and tasks.
What if you are assigned to lead them or mentor them?
Do they trust your ability?
Do they TRUST you?
I believe these are not new questions to you.
So how do you win their trust and get them to co-operate with you?
One simple way is to lead by example.
This, therefore, involves self-improvement.
When you are tasked to work on a project (for example) with a group of people, these team-mates of yours will scan you through thoroughly.
This is for sure!
Do not blame them as it is human nature.
To win their trust, and let them work with you, prove tothem that you can.
Prove to them that you are sincere in working out the role given to you.
Prove to them that you are able and can independently settle problems (within limits, of course).
When you are able to fulfill the above, chances are that you will be respected by them and trust will follow suit.
It is that simple!
Everyone likes to work with people who are deem not to be a burden to them.
Hence if you are able to perform, in their eyes, you will win their trust straight away.
Therefore, self-improve. Everyone is looking at you.
Hope you agree.
Any comments? .......
:-D
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Finding Excuses
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Have you wonder why some people progress in life better than others?
Do you find them "action" people?
I personally find that they do produce results after some effort on their part. The result though may not be exceptionally good. But they do have outcomes!
Why then do some others stay put and make little progress if any?
I noticed that these latter group of people tend to find excuses to cover their lack of interest to upgrade.
They tend to give all sort of reasons to hide behind their weakness and pretend to be "great".
Some even go to the extend of openly declaring that they don't understand, therefore will not do anything.
What results is status quo! No progress is made.
What should be done is to remove the obstacles blocking the understanding. Pick up more fundamental subjects related to the topics. Read anything leading to the issue or ask for help. Take action!
Simply changing the mindset to clear any hindrance will be half a battle won.
The firm mindset to learn and self-improve will last a long time till old age.
This is a skill precious enough to set example for your predecessor. They will respect you!
Do not find any more excuses when you meet with obstacles. Take initiatives and move forward with a positive attitude. In summary be honest.
Hope this post will push anyone who stay put to jump start self-improvement.
Cheers!
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Have you wonder why some people progress in life better than others?
Do you find them "action" people?
I personally find that they do produce results after some effort on their part. The result though may not be exceptionally good. But they do have outcomes!
Why then do some others stay put and make little progress if any?
I noticed that these latter group of people tend to find excuses to cover their lack of interest to upgrade.
They tend to give all sort of reasons to hide behind their weakness and pretend to be "great".
Some even go to the extend of openly declaring that they don't understand, therefore will not do anything.
What results is status quo! No progress is made.
What should be done is to remove the obstacles blocking the understanding. Pick up more fundamental subjects related to the topics. Read anything leading to the issue or ask for help. Take action!
Simply changing the mindset to clear any hindrance will be half a battle won.
The firm mindset to learn and self-improve will last a long time till old age.
This is a skill precious enough to set example for your predecessor. They will respect you!
Do not find any more excuses when you meet with obstacles. Take initiatives and move forward with a positive attitude. In summary be honest.
Hope this post will push anyone who stay put to jump start self-improvement.
Cheers!
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Sunday, August 23, 2009
A Simple Way to Exercise the Brain
Our brain needs exercise to develop the numerous "links" within the hemispheres.
One simple way that can be done anytime and anywhere is to think out small little challnege that is fun to yourself.
The purpose is to motivate you to THINK.
Thinking forces you to exercise the brain.
One example is shown below:
From the diagram shown, how many items can be deduced from it?
This exercise can produce a genius out of anyone. The more items you can produce the better you are.
Try with other diagrams.
It will not change you overnight. You know better.
But over a certain period of time, you will definitely grow in the "intelligent" direction.
You will be able to see "more" things and reason better.
Have a try today... and please do share your answers of the above diagram through commenting.
Cheers!
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One simple way that can be done anytime and anywhere is to think out small little challnege that is fun to yourself.
The purpose is to motivate you to THINK.
Thinking forces you to exercise the brain.
One example is shown below:
From the diagram shown, how many items can be deduced from it?
My answers:
- window grilles
- tic-tac-toe
- tiles
- rubik cubes
- piles of boxes
- walls (looking from the top)
This exercise can produce a genius out of anyone. The more items you can produce the better you are.
Try with other diagrams.
It will not change you overnight. You know better.
But over a certain period of time, you will definitely grow in the "intelligent" direction.
You will be able to see "more" things and reason better.
Have a try today... and please do share your answers of the above diagram through commenting.
Cheers!
.
Friday, July 24, 2009
Happy Method | Remove Anything That Irritates
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Being happy is every one's wish.
Here you will learn one method that you can apply easily to head towards happiness.
Can you think of incidents that made you unhappy?
Does anyone of them involves things that irritate or annoy you?
I believe there must be some.
Examples of these are:
- people in the bus
- rubbish thrown round you
- naught kids making noise
Are they familiar examples?
I hope I make the point through.
Yes, things irritable make us agitated and uncomfortable.
This lead us to unhappiness.
So the cause of our unhappiness, in these incidents, are things that we do not want.
Knowing this, we can carry out our happiness generating method by removing these undesired items.
If your table is messed up with undone work, strive to tidy it up.
Remove the unwanted and place the wanted neatly in file holders or containers or equivalent.
If your kid is noisy and cannot be controlled, move to a quiet corner and rest your mind.
Stay there for a while to cool your nerve before thinking again.
Having an unclear mind to deal with uncontrollable things makes us unhappy.
Stay away from troubled places. "Out of sight, out of mind".
Be aware that things are all in our mind.
If we want to be unhappy, we will get it.
If we try our best to be happy, we will achieve it.
It is a matter of taking action.
Get rid of old habits if you find that they do you no good.
Remove Anything that irritates and destroy you.
We deserve a better live for we have only one life.
Cheers to us! Hip Hip Hooray!
:D
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Being happy is every one's wish.
Here you will learn one method that you can apply easily to head towards happiness.
Can you think of incidents that made you unhappy?
Does anyone of them involves things that irritate or annoy you?
I believe there must be some.
Examples of these are:
- people in the bus
- rubbish thrown round you
- naught kids making noise
Are they familiar examples?
I hope I make the point through.
Yes, things irritable make us agitated and uncomfortable.
This lead us to unhappiness.
So the cause of our unhappiness, in these incidents, are things that we do not want.
Knowing this, we can carry out our happiness generating method by removing these undesired items.
If your table is messed up with undone work, strive to tidy it up.
Remove the unwanted and place the wanted neatly in file holders or containers or equivalent.
If your kid is noisy and cannot be controlled, move to a quiet corner and rest your mind.
Stay there for a while to cool your nerve before thinking again.
Having an unclear mind to deal with uncontrollable things makes us unhappy.
Stay away from troubled places. "Out of sight, out of mind".
Be aware that things are all in our mind.
If we want to be unhappy, we will get it.
If we try our best to be happy, we will achieve it.
It is a matter of taking action.
Get rid of old habits if you find that they do you no good.
Remove Anything that irritates and destroy you.
We deserve a better live for we have only one life.
Cheers to us! Hip Hip Hooray!
:D
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Sunday, July 19, 2009
Happy Method | Target One Good Thing Everyday
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There are many ways to be happy.
However, if there is no plan and no focus, you will lost track of your happy vision.
One easy way to start the day is to have a target.
Choose a good thing that you want to achieve.
Just any random action or task that comes to your mind the instance you wake up.
It has to be comfortable and pleasant to do.
It could simply be a handshake to a new staff in your office, or a smile to the bus driver.
Just make it happen if given the chance.
Better still seize the chance, or create the opportunity if possible.
Action is the key word.
Make it happen, the good thing that you plan for.
You may start off having one, and growing to more if you like.
Over the days, you will find that you will have more "feedbacks".
These "feedbacks" are the paybacks that you planted all these days doing good things.
You will find yourself getting happier along the way.
It will be amazing. The outcome will be fantastic given the slight effort on your part.
This is a form of self-improvement.
An improvement on your mental health.
Try it today.
It's free.
It's easy.
It all depends on you.
Cheers! :)
Be happy.
:)
There are many ways to be happy.
However, if there is no plan and no focus, you will lost track of your happy vision.
One easy way to start the day is to have a target.
Choose a good thing that you want to achieve.
Just any random action or task that comes to your mind the instance you wake up.
It has to be comfortable and pleasant to do.
It could simply be a handshake to a new staff in your office, or a smile to the bus driver.
Just make it happen if given the chance.
Better still seize the chance, or create the opportunity if possible.
Action is the key word.
Make it happen, the good thing that you plan for.
You may start off having one, and growing to more if you like.
Over the days, you will find that you will have more "feedbacks".
These "feedbacks" are the paybacks that you planted all these days doing good things.
You will find yourself getting happier along the way.
It will be amazing. The outcome will be fantastic given the slight effort on your part.
This is a form of self-improvement.
An improvement on your mental health.
Try it today.
It's free.
It's easy.
It all depends on you.
Cheers! :)
Be happy.
:)
Friday, July 10, 2009
One Sure Way To Be HAPPY
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There are many ways to make a person happy.
But one sure way to be happy is ...
turn off the television or computer, and start talking to humans.
People, being social beings, need communication and idea sharing.
They like to pass message, one-way or both-way.
They like to share their feelings.
They like to show their affection and emotion.
They like to express.
Why is this so?
To communicate, you feel good.
We release some stress that may have accumulated through the working day.
To communicate, you can motivate others.
We need to show concern for our love ones, or the people we care for.
By showing and communicating our emotion to others, we are allowing others to show the same to us. It is mutual.
The television or computer cannot do that!
Therefore, to stay and be happy, cut down the number of hours in front of the television or computer. Talk to others. Act like a human being.
You will then feel like normal and being part of the human community.
You will be happy. This is a sure way.
Try it. Turn your computer off now and communicate to anyone around you.
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There are many ways to make a person happy.
But one sure way to be happy is ...
turn off the television or computer, and start talking to humans.
People, being social beings, need communication and idea sharing.
They like to pass message, one-way or both-way.
They like to share their feelings.
They like to show their affection and emotion.
They like to express.
Why is this so?
To communicate, you feel good.
We release some stress that may have accumulated through the working day.
To communicate, you can motivate others.
We need to show concern for our love ones, or the people we care for.
By showing and communicating our emotion to others, we are allowing others to show the same to us. It is mutual.
The television or computer cannot do that!
Therefore, to stay and be happy, cut down the number of hours in front of the television or computer. Talk to others. Act like a human being.
You will then feel like normal and being part of the human community.
You will be happy. This is a sure way.
Try it. Turn your computer off now and communicate to anyone around you.
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Thursday, May 21, 2009
Mindset of Trying
I was talking to a young girl one day about fish feeding.
She asked "Can we feed the fish using wooden sawdust?"
I was shocked at the question, and replied "No!, the fishes may die?"
She responded "Have you tried?"
This forced me to ponder for a moment.
What this young girl asked was a very important message in life.
Sometimes in life, if we do not try, we will not get the answer.
What surprised me further is the young girl's following statement...
She, with a clear voice, stated
"Sometimes a CAN becomes a CANNOT because we never try."
It rings a bell in my mind. A clear statement, and an intelligent one!
Yes, a mindset of trying is a valuable asset we need to embrace.
Without trying, everything remains the same. There will not be any improvement. Life goes on without excitement and new inventions.
But with trying, we can at least be assured that new things, concepts or ideas are generated. Even if they are not applied now, there will be in the future.
Think about it.
(I wonder if there is anymore such young girls around.)
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She asked "Can we feed the fish using wooden sawdust?"
I was shocked at the question, and replied "No!, the fishes may die?"
She responded "Have you tried?"
This forced me to ponder for a moment.
What this young girl asked was a very important message in life.
Sometimes in life, if we do not try, we will not get the answer.
What surprised me further is the young girl's following statement...
She, with a clear voice, stated
"Sometimes a CAN becomes a CANNOT because we never try."
It rings a bell in my mind. A clear statement, and an intelligent one!
Yes, a mindset of trying is a valuable asset we need to embrace.
Without trying, everything remains the same. There will not be any improvement. Life goes on without excitement and new inventions.
But with trying, we can at least be assured that new things, concepts or ideas are generated. Even if they are not applied now, there will be in the future.
Think about it.
(I wonder if there is anymore such young girls around.)
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Monday, May 18, 2009
Using Common Sense
Everyone has the ability to reason logic in their thinking.
Some practice this often, while some hardly.
Sometimes, we meet with problems that are way beyond our comprehension, and to find a solution to them may take awhile.
What do you do then?
The answer is use your common sense.
Use what has been done many times and use what has been proven fine.
Our experience forms our common sense, though.
Common sense does not pop out from nothing.
It is the accumulation of daily happenings onto us that forms our knowledge base.
With different exposure, different experience forms.
Different people will come out different solution to a problem.
Hence, having varied exposure to many happenings help us come out suitable answer or solution.
Therefore to aid in your ability to come out answers to questions and challenges, strive to expose yourself to many changing environment and tasks. They will force you to think in a different scope and setting.
With varied constraints come varied outlook to problems. With different outlooks, come different experiences.
This is the skill need that will be long-lasting.
Thus, use your common sense to look at things. It widens your experience!
Cheers!
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Some practice this often, while some hardly.
Sometimes, we meet with problems that are way beyond our comprehension, and to find a solution to them may take awhile.
What do you do then?
The answer is use your common sense.
Use what has been done many times and use what has been proven fine.
Our experience forms our common sense, though.
Common sense does not pop out from nothing.
It is the accumulation of daily happenings onto us that forms our knowledge base.
With different exposure, different experience forms.
Different people will come out different solution to a problem.
Hence, having varied exposure to many happenings help us come out suitable answer or solution.
Therefore to aid in your ability to come out answers to questions and challenges, strive to expose yourself to many changing environment and tasks. They will force you to think in a different scope and setting.
With varied constraints come varied outlook to problems. With different outlooks, come different experiences.
This is the skill need that will be long-lasting.
Thus, use your common sense to look at things. It widens your experience!
Cheers!
.
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Be Realistic With Yourself and Others
There is a trap when you set goals for yourself and others.
Ambition and lack of patience may be the causes. Aiming too high without due concern for resources (time and necessary skills) can make or break the outcome.
Planning carefully, covering as many aspects of the objectives, will be a wiser approach when dealing with setting goals.
Ultimately, be realistic, especially when the outcome involves many others too.
Check the time frame to pick up new skills and the resources needed along the process.
Cater for the learning journey.
Factor in human behaviour towards challenging tasks.
Look into yourself,and your confidence level to complete the mission.
Be truly you.
Again, be realistic.
But what if the setting is fixed and has to progress on?
Firstly, do not point finger.
This will cause more harm than saving the situation. At times of this stressful condition, everyone needs motivation to get on.
Secondly, have an open communication.
Keeping to yourself and doing it alone will be tough. Communicate your ideas as you go along. Others may have better strategies to manage the problems or process. Open communication in the genuine sense, makes for better long-term rapport later on.
Even when no solutions can be found for the questions, as least you know that you have tried finding for one. Hunt for another approach. Internet, magazines, forum, etc are good places to get information leads.
Thirdly, know that you have to do it and avoid negative thoughts.
Staying positive is a good sign to progress. Negative thoughts will only pull you down or slow your down. Be strong. Know that you are a better person with every steps ahead. Even failure is a little lesson in itself. Staying stagnant, and blaming the situation is not productive. Things will not move forward if wrong thoughts fused into your thinking.
Being mature and realistic, though not easy, is also not difficult to handle. Just stay positive.
Self-motivate yourself consistently.
Even when the whole thing does not make it finally, I guarantee that you have achieve much internally through going the tough road. It is the strength within you that make a better you. Develop it!
Cheers to self-improvement!
.
Ambition and lack of patience may be the causes. Aiming too high without due concern for resources (time and necessary skills) can make or break the outcome.
Planning carefully, covering as many aspects of the objectives, will be a wiser approach when dealing with setting goals.
Ultimately, be realistic, especially when the outcome involves many others too.
Check the time frame to pick up new skills and the resources needed along the process.
Cater for the learning journey.
Factor in human behaviour towards challenging tasks.
Look into yourself,and your confidence level to complete the mission.
Be truly you.
Again, be realistic.
But what if the setting is fixed and has to progress on?
Firstly, do not point finger.
This will cause more harm than saving the situation. At times of this stressful condition, everyone needs motivation to get on.
Secondly, have an open communication.
Keeping to yourself and doing it alone will be tough. Communicate your ideas as you go along. Others may have better strategies to manage the problems or process. Open communication in the genuine sense, makes for better long-term rapport later on.
Even when no solutions can be found for the questions, as least you know that you have tried finding for one. Hunt for another approach. Internet, magazines, forum, etc are good places to get information leads.
Thirdly, know that you have to do it and avoid negative thoughts.
Staying positive is a good sign to progress. Negative thoughts will only pull you down or slow your down. Be strong. Know that you are a better person with every steps ahead. Even failure is a little lesson in itself. Staying stagnant, and blaming the situation is not productive. Things will not move forward if wrong thoughts fused into your thinking.
Being mature and realistic, though not easy, is also not difficult to handle. Just stay positive.
Self-motivate yourself consistently.
Even when the whole thing does not make it finally, I guarantee that you have achieve much internally through going the tough road. It is the strength within you that make a better you. Develop it!
Cheers to self-improvement!
.
Saturday, April 25, 2009
Wasting Time By Worrying About Yesterday
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Do you notice that there are times when you worry about the events that happened yesterday?
You may have made some mistakes that cause you anxiety, or you may spoken something wrongly. They worried you.
You lost focused in your current work, dwelling on what was past. Your mind slipped now and then back to yesterday.
Is it healthy mentally for this to happen?
I supposed you know the answer.
What is actually lost is your time.
What happened in the past should be captured as learning points to be enhanced as experience.
This way of thinking will reduce your anxiety and will make you feel better and happier.
You have to treat mistakes made as treasure. They may not come back again.
Move on with this experience to create a better you. Focus on the present and improve.
To see the light of future is better than looking back in darkness. Dwelling in the past darkness causes you to lost precious time that will melt away with your unconscious knowledge, until it is too late.
Know that every event, whether present or past, that happens are important to you. But knowing that things have to move on regardless of the past is more important.
With this mentality and with constant practice, you will ultimately find yourself improving with a happy attitude. You will treat every little happenings you encountered that "highlights" of your life, which are very unique to any individuals.
Don't waste anymore time thinking and worrying about the yesterdays. They cannot come back.
Move on with joy. Cheers!
:-)
Do you notice that there are times when you worry about the events that happened yesterday?
You may have made some mistakes that cause you anxiety, or you may spoken something wrongly. They worried you.
You lost focused in your current work, dwelling on what was past. Your mind slipped now and then back to yesterday.
Is it healthy mentally for this to happen?
I supposed you know the answer.
What is actually lost is your time.
What happened in the past should be captured as learning points to be enhanced as experience.
This way of thinking will reduce your anxiety and will make you feel better and happier.
You have to treat mistakes made as treasure. They may not come back again.
Move on with this experience to create a better you. Focus on the present and improve.
To see the light of future is better than looking back in darkness. Dwelling in the past darkness causes you to lost precious time that will melt away with your unconscious knowledge, until it is too late.
Know that every event, whether present or past, that happens are important to you. But knowing that things have to move on regardless of the past is more important.
With this mentality and with constant practice, you will ultimately find yourself improving with a happy attitude. You will treat every little happenings you encountered that "highlights" of your life, which are very unique to any individuals.
Don't waste anymore time thinking and worrying about the yesterdays. They cannot come back.
Move on with joy. Cheers!
:-)
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