Daring to Fail

Everybody longs and seeks for success. It makes them happy and comfortable.

If you ever ask anyone why they avoid failure, they will always give you a stern look.
Why?

Because it may seems that you are testing their level of self-esteem.

Failure does pull down confidence. It destroys plans. It drags your you down emotional for a period of time.
Who likes failure?

Thus doing new and unfamiliar task becomes an issue to be avoided. 
After all what is wrong being in a comfort zone? Nothing will be wrong, and nothing will fail.

Status quo. No change.

Then what?

Times do change and lifestyle, technology and many others changes everyday.

If there is no action on your part to explore new things, you will become history very fast.
Accept failure.

Accept the fact that doing new things will result in failure. This is where you start to learn.
This is where you will find fun!

Learning through failure is one way out of many methods to pick up something new. 
But is a common method to improve oneself.

Daring to fail is the key. Love failure. It exposes you honestly. You will be opened up. You will find that failure in your every eyes a wonderful thing to have. It lets you find the truth after the feedback.

Think over this. Be truthful to yourself. 
If there is no action and remaining with the present, or worst, the past, you will finally lost yourself to the ever-changing world.

Wake up friends. Do your part and dare to fail.   :-)

Living in Relativity

Life is a complex blend of happiness and sadness. At one time, we are happy and the next, we may be sad.

However, to reflect clearly, it all comes from our relative comparisons and expectations.
We think that we are unfortunate in some instance. But is it really true?
By comparing to a “better” person, we are unfortunate. But if we set our reference to one that is worst, are we fortunate?
Thus, our mind calls the shot. We select how we feel
If we are physically ill, do we give up and let nature takes it course?

Cancer, stroke or heart problems are common nowadays.
How do we deal with it? Brighten up or dim off?
Help is always at hand and provided we are keen to know the issue.

Self-improvement is a continuous process regardless of mental or physical state.

I am lucky to know of a person, Jackie Clark, who has enlightened me on the issue of cancer.
It sort of waked me up to the relative state we are constantly in.

Here I present to you her sharing on how a cancer diagnosis changes a person's life.

 
How a Cancer Diagnosis Changes a Person's Life
By: Jackie Clark
 
Cancer is a disease that people do not truly understand unless it happens to them. Every year, there are millions of people who hear the scary words "you have cancer." Prostate, breast, colon and cervix are some of the most common forms of cancer being diagnosed today. Mesothelioma is one of the least common forms of cancer, but the number of people being diagnosed with has increased drastically in the past few years. The mesothelioma life expectancy is only about eighteen months, but the prognosis depends greatly on the patient.

People who have cancer are afraid because they do not know what their future holds. They do not know whether they will be able to do the things they once enjoyed. Cancer patients do not even know if they will wake up the next morning. Loved ones of a cancer patient are also affected. Sadly, cancer does not just affect the patient but others around them as well. Losing a friend, spouse, mother, father or child is a pain that cannot be described. Those who are close to someone who has cancer worry constantly about their loved one.

People who have cancer have to endure months and perhaps years of painful treatments. Cancer also causes hair and weight loss, which can make a person feel self-conscious. Many cancer patients also feel guilty because they feel as though they are being a burden to their family and friends.

There is no way that the pain of a cancer diagnosis can be taken away. However, one of the things that cancer patients can do that can potentially be beneficial is seeing a life coach. Life coaches are trained professionals who help people deal with the challenges of life. Life coaches can help cancer patients overcome depression. They can also help the patients develop a more positive self-image. The family members of cancer patients can also potentially benefit from life coaching. The benefits of a life coach seem never ending. The guidance and insight these professionals provide truly help cancer patients and their family members heal both physically and mentally.

People who have heard the devastating words "you have cancer" know that their lives will never be the same. Cancer patients, face a world of uncertainty, but fortunately they do not have to go down that road alone. Family members, friends and life coaches are available to help people go through that terrifying ordeal.

:-) Count your blessings.

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Be True to Your Belief

On a daily basis we are bombarded with many comments and views from others.

Some are encouraging while some are destructive.

Did you get demoralised?

Stay strong, if you have the urge to submit to the latter.

Why?
It is because if you go the way of accepting that you are "bad", you will lost your esteem as well as confidence.

Stay true to your own belief if you think that what you do is for the good of self and others.

Think and review your intention and desire for certain things that you have been doing that have gotten the red eye of others.

We cannot avoid the "speech" of people around us but we can choose to ignore or filter the "speech".

Believe in yourself.
It will make you trust yourself better and happier as a result.

Overtime, with much practice, you will find that you will have the strength to overturn the bad impact and smile over it.

So stay tune to your belief and stay sincere to your goodness self.

Cheers and forever happy.  :-)

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Viewing Failure as Feedback

Have you really looked at how people walk to their destination?

Or how a boat reaches its final point?

Along the way, aiming for that particular end point, we encounter many "disturbances" that cause us to deviate from the main flow.

While walking, you will notice, if you pay attention, that we continuously skew away from the straight line to the destination.

BUT we managed to steer back and continue walking to our final target.

Some people call these deviations "Failures".

Some call them "Feedbacks".

What is the differences?

Definitely the latter perception is a positive one.
It generates interest in moving forward, taking the message as input for correction.

When you view the deviation (input) as failure, you hammered yourself down into the ground.
You will not enjoy the journey, whether walking or rowing the boat.

Staying positive amidst all the disturbances keep you enthusiastic about finding more.
It keeps you informed. It helps you reach your goals.

It is a matter of viewing the message.
It is possible to change your mindset and perception of things.

Therefore it will be good if you start looking at things on the bright side, viewing feedbacks without "failures" starting today.

Do you agree with me this is a better choice?

Happy feedbacks.  Cheers!

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Being Brave In Times of Hardship

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Looking at imminent problems may be taxing when you know that they cannot be avoided or resolved.

Two things can be done then.
1) Completely ignore the fact and move on as though they did not exist
2) Face the fact and move on in reality

Choice one may be good in the short term, but may results in accumulated negative impact later.
Choice two is down to earth, feeling the pain upfront but growing stronger later.

Being brave takes energy.
Choice two needs a stronger amount of energy.

Being realistic reflects maturity. Shallowing pride demonstrates strength in understanding.

Failure to meet goals meant more hardwork to be factor in.
As such, failure meant delayed success.

Being brave will see results later.
Staying on track and remaining focus will be good objectives to keep one going.

Things will be brighter along the way.
There will go ups and downs, a cycling effect at play.

Just look forward and move on in times of hardship.
Select happiness and not drown yourself in sorrow.

You have a choice in life.
Being happy or sad.

Know that everyone goes through this one time or another.
Know that you are not alone.

Be brave.

Dwelling on the Past Instead of Future

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It is very often that we look back into the past and wonder why some events happen only to us.

It is even more bitter when the events were not happy ones.

For those happenings, we tend to question the why's.
We cannot accept the fact that we are involved and not others.
We felt let down or demoralised.

But is it necessary to ask why?
Will it helps?

It may be better if we go for the "what" than the "why" for most of these instances.

What I meant is the learning part or the lesson to be picked up for those incidents.

Dwelling on the past and wondering "why" is just simply recalling the sad situation and remaining status quo.
No progress is made with such action.

Rather understand the happenings and seek the "what" to be learned.
This way improvement is made and you will be delighted with yourself for learning and experiencing life.

You will not be dragged down by the past but be boosted with new lesson learned.

Move forward after learning the lesson and strive for self-improvement.

Past is past, we have only the future to look forward to.

Cheers and ...  don't forget to feed my cheerful and happy fishes (on the left ). Thanks.

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Side Effects Of Positive Thinking

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Trying your best in whatever you do is an example of being positive.

Accepting new challenge or task is another example.

To be happy, one way is to help people. This is positive thinking.
But if you are helping too many people, will you still be happy and continuw to stay positive?

Moderation comes in.
Positive thinking is good if you balance your limit to it.

Overdoing and exceeding your buffer may do more harm.

If every single thing has to be accepted in the name of positive thinking, to improve or otherwise, we will go bersek.

It is counter-productive in nature if ignoring "negative" fact is deemed bad.

Information has to be reviewed and time buffer, and capability studied before going with new challenge.

It is against the objective if due to being positive, committment is agreed but cannot be fulfilled.

What then is positive thinking?
It will pull you down and makes you worried and sad.

Think twice.
Rejecting offer is good to yourself and others if you believe that you are not able to commit to the task.
It is fair to you and others too.

It even reflects maturity in your thinking.

Moderate whatever comes along and balance them with existing duties and roles.

Any thing we handle has side effects. There are always advantage and disadvantage in everything.

Be aware of this and less thing will go wrong.

Stay balance and happy ,  :-)

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Tips On Improving Your Kids Studies

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Teaching a kid is a tough job for any teacher or parent.

The minds of kids are fluctuating now and then, even during studying.

We can't do much about the mind unless we apply stright discipline.
This cause resentment and rebellion.
The negative impact on the freedom demoralises the kid and make studying a chore.

What is a good tip then to "wake up" and encourage the kid in their study?

The answer lies in how we get them motivated.

How do you, in the first place, what others to motivate you?
Using the answer, you can apply it onto the kids.

One way, for me, is the feel of success.

Motivation comes when you discovered that a certain task assumed to be out-of-reach can be accomplished with some effort.

The "I made it!" conclusion stimulates.

Apply this aim onto the kids.

How to go about it?

1)  Get the kids to start of simple. Some hand holding may be necessary.
2)  Guide the kids closely. Showing examples or model answers if possible. This built confidence.
3)  Let the kids pratice a few times of the same type of problems.
4)  Summarise the steps or key points.
5)  Request the kids to repeat your summarised steps.
6)  Give a test question for them to try on their own.
7)  Wait to see their SMILE.

Finally, you will be smiling with them.

Be consistent throughout the guidance.
They can read your mind if you are sincere about training them.

Kids are NOT stupid. They are sensing and testing water at times.
Show them you care. They will read you correctly.

Improving this skill and you will be having less resistance teaching your kids.

:-D   Happy tutoring.

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Focusing On The Positive Aspect

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Everyday do you find yourself being bombarded with new things?

Do you often feel overloaded with information?

Or are you asked to carry out tasks meaningless to you?

To stay sane and happy, there is one thing you have to do.

==> Focus on the POSITIVE side of things.

In any situation, some goodies are hidden. It is up to us to look for them.

Let me tell you a real life story of mine.

I was once asked to dismantle a number of test jigs. I felt rotten, being asked to do things not in line with the main job in the production line. I was a trainee then, and such, this is a starting point, I presumed.

I performed the given assignment.

However, as I was taking apart the panels and connectors, I found out that the test jigs were hooked up in a special way. At that moment I discovered that I have learned a new thing without a teacher.

If I had closed my mind and attitude towards the "meaningless" task given, I would be skimming through a pile of rubbish. I would not notice the good stuff.

Later, I was asked to connect up a new tester for a new product, with another technician. I applied the method I picked up while dismantling the test jigs.

And surprise, the tester that I hooked up worked!
And my counterpart didn't!

From that experience, I discovered that no matter what task you do, focus on the bright side of things as it is lurking there to be discovered by us.

Focus on the positive aspect and not dwell on the dull side.

Cheers.

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Honesty Removes Relational Barrier

Ever wonder why some people has more friends than others?

And that you find some people easier to talk to or you are comfortable talking to?

It may not be instantaneous, but comes after some period of knowing the person.

Why is it so?

One reason lies in that the person you dealt with consistently give you reliable and honest information. The information shared is straightly frank.

Or a honest answer without the need to dig into hidden agenda.

In these days of hectic and chaotic lifestyle, having a honest answer makes you feel comfortable. You need not have to think hard. There are more things and matters requiring your attention.

I believe all these scenarios are not unfamiliar to you.

Being truthful and honest has its value.

If you practice and believe in this form of behaviour, there is high chance that people will like you.
(This makes you happy).

You will have people approaching you for advice and help. You are deemed a "friend" where they can get reliable answer.

Honesty, thus, removes relational barrier. And indirectly it makes you a channel of communication.

This outcome do let you remain clean in your thoughts and behaviour towards others. People will   move with you. They trust your feedback.

Hence to have good companion, do the correct things and automatically, good things will come for you, including people who value you.

Practice that, and you will understand what I mean.

Cheers to honesty, and self-improvement for a better future.

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Fear of Failure

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What is failure?
How do you view failure?

Failure is a frightening word anyone detest.
Yet it cannot be avoided.

Since we cannot avoid or prevent this from happening, we have to have the courage to face it when it comes along.

Having the courage requires a mindset change.

Does failure needs hopeless?
No. It means that the result did not meet the desired outcome.

Not meeting the targeted objectives does not mean all is lost.
The experience along the way is one good lesson we picked up.

Failure is just a deviation of the intended path.
There is nothing to fear other than the looks of the naives.

Avoid them, for they are the fearful lot.

Jumping into the unknown is a potential risk in meeting failure.
New experience and exposure will be encountered.
New outlook of a certain topic or area of interest will happen.

All this expand your knowledge.

Failure, hence, is a good starting point for you to review your procedures and technique in approaching a goal.

Face it with a positive attitude.
More is gained rather than lost.
Ironically it seems but true!

Fear not failure as it teaches.

Take up any challenge when it comes.
Avoiding it is a no-no strategy.
Avoiding it means you are reversing back to your original status. Status quo!

Do you want living life with no excitement and no new experience?
It is boring.

Think over it.
Think about failure.
Is it that dreadful?
What is the most you can lose? Access the siutation.

Self-improvement is important.
Pull yourself out of the well and look at the beautiful happenings around you.
Learn and face failure squarely.
Love it!

And life will be better.

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Simple Way To Gain Trust

Everyone look at each other everytime.

Some try to size you up when you are new to them.

Some may ignore you.

Even when they are your close friends or not-so-close friends, they still do monitor your behaviour and reaction to things and tasks.

What if you are assigned to lead them or mentor them?
Do they trust your ability?
Do they TRUST you?

I believe these are not new questions to you.

So how do you win their trust and get them to co-operate with you?

One simple way is to lead by example.
This, therefore, involves self-improvement.

When you are tasked to work on a project (for example) with a group of people, these team-mates of yours will scan you through thoroughly.
This is for sure!

Do not blame them as it is human nature.

To win their trust, and let them work with you, prove tothem that you can.
Prove to them that you are sincere in working out the role given to you.
Prove to them that you are able and can independently settle problems (within limits, of course).

When you are able to fulfill the above, chances are that you will be respected by them and trust will follow suit.

It is that simple!

Everyone likes to work with people who are deem not to be a burden to them.
Hence if you are able to perform, in their eyes, you will win their trust straight away.

Therefore, self-improve. Everyone is looking at you.

Hope you agree.

Any comments? .......

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Finding Excuses

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Have you wonder why some people progress in life better than others?

Do you find them "action" people?

I personally find that they do produce results after some effort on their part. The result though may not be exceptionally good. But they do have outcomes!

Why then do some others stay put and make little progress if any?

I noticed that these latter group of people tend to find excuses to cover their lack of interest to upgrade.

They tend to give all sort of reasons to hide behind their weakness and pretend to be "great".

Some even go to the extend of openly declaring that they don't understand, therefore will not do anything.

What results is status quo! No progress is made.

What should be done is to remove the obstacles blocking the understanding. Pick up more fundamental subjects related to the topics. Read anything leading to the issue or ask for help. Take action!

Simply changing the mindset to clear any hindrance will be half a battle won.
The firm mindset to learn and self-improve will last a long time till old age.
This is a skill precious enough to set example for your predecessor. They will respect you!

Do not find any more excuses when you meet with obstacles. Take initiatives and move forward with a positive attitude. In summary be honest.

Hope this post will push anyone who stay put to jump start self-improvement.
Cheers!

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State of Confusion

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Confused?
This is a word everyone dislike and will try to avoid at all cost.

It creates an internal fear, a mental one.
It brings out an insecurity to anyone experiencing it.

"Something is wrong!"  The mind sends this message to its owner.

But is it that fearful?

I request you to think again.

If you know something is amiss, isn't it good?
Is it better than not even knowing something is getting misaligned?

A confused state is indirectly a good one.
It tells you that you have something to learn.

It prompts you to the fact that something in your mind does not match with another concept or fact that you already thought you understood.

The confusion is a signal for you to take action. It provides the chance for you to explore previous knowledge.

Hence when you are in a state of confusion, be happy! It is a good sign.
It sounds ironical. But this is not a joke!
I am sure anyone reading this understand my message.

Do not fear confusion if it happens.
Think back and try to piece up the puzzle.
If at any time you feel stressed, allow yourself time-off and come back again.

You have already won half the battle knowing that you are confused!

The answer or solution will come at an appropriate time if you did not give up.
Any way, if you have reached this state of confusion, you will not be someone who will give up the challenge easily.
Or am I wrong?
Comment please....

:D     Have a nice day being confuse.

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Solving Problems With a New Mindset

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Have you ever tried solving a sticking problem but went round and round without clearing the issue?

It makes you angry, right?
I bet!

But do not despair. It may be due to the approach that you applied.

When you encounter a problem, it is normally because your concept or technique is wrong or inappropriate.

When you use back the same mindset to solve the problem, you are actually using back the wrong tools that created the problem.

Maintaining the same level of mindset is also another mistake you made.

Holding back to the same level to solve the issue cannot allow you to see the issue at an elevated platform.
Sometimes, you need to stand higher up to link up a bigger picture before you can actually notice the error or loophole within.

Changing your mindset and its level to resolve issue is key to improving yourself.

Linking steps before and around the current situation is a skill that is needed to have a smooth and systematic approach to problem-solving.

Be aware that there are always many other ways to look at a problem.
Be flexible and look at things from many angles.

You will, then, find that solving problems an enjoyable challenge.

Cheers and many problem-solving!    :)

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Resting Is Beneficial To Us

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Given the demanding pace of this new era, everyone may at times feel tired and stressful.

This is normal if you are human.

"Look ahead to see if you can last long", this is a common question that pops up often either through yourself or through your colleagues.

Health and the mental mind goes hand in hand.

The body supports the mind, as well as the mind supports the body.
As long as one party fails, the other suffers.

To keep both in check, we NEED to rest.
Taking a break occasionally is good and a must.

When you feel restless, it is time to cool down and rest the body and mind.

Recover for the future.

Work will never end.
Homework will be forever.
Assignment will always be waiting for you.

Your health WILL end.
Our mission is to make it last longer.

Learn to stay physically and mentally fit.
Take a break regularly.
Tell yourself that you deserve it.
It is not cheating on others.
It is life and death.

It is good for your future, to last long to continue to contribute.
It is to rest so that you will enjoy the coming life.

Take care and stay happy.

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What Is Happiness?

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This is a simple question.

But not many can get the correct answer.

In fact, I do not think there is any correct answer.

Why so?

It is because I believe, happiness changes with time and is individual on a case-by-case basis.

Happiness is a journey and not an end.

Many factors come into making a person happy.
But they may not apply the next day.
They changes with the mood.

Realising this message will therefore be a good indicator of our mental and emotional behaviour besides that of other people we deal with.

We live in a society of people. Each individuals are unique. It is an amazing world we live in.

By looking on the bright side of things, we are better tuned to stay happy. If it is not so, at least, we are not that sad.

It is our mindset that plays with our emotion. We have a choice. We have a brain.
Unless we are unable to control our mental state, which at times are possible, we are "off" the track.

Keep this behavioural pattern in check, and practice with conscious awareness.

But all said, one important thing that will not change is "We are still human."

If you make any bad comments or mistakes that disturb others, sincerely apologise later on after you come back to normal.

This showed that you are human, and you will feel better (and happier). Others will respect you for it, as they also make mistakes and also wish to be forgiving and happy too.

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Happy Method | Remove Anything That Irritates

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Being happy is every one's wish.

Here you will learn one method that you can apply easily to head towards happiness.

Can you think of incidents that made you unhappy?

Does anyone of them involves things that irritate or annoy you?

I believe there must be some.

Examples of these are:
- people in the bus
- rubbish thrown round you
- naught kids making noise

Are they familiar examples?

I hope I make the point through.
Yes, things irritable make us agitated and uncomfortable.
This lead us to unhappiness.

So the cause of our unhappiness, in these incidents, are things that we do not want.

Knowing this, we can carry out our happiness generating method by removing these undesired items.

If your table is messed up with undone work, strive to tidy it up.
Remove the unwanted and place the wanted neatly in file holders or containers or equivalent.

If your kid is noisy and cannot be controlled, move to a quiet corner and rest your mind.
Stay there for a while to cool your nerve before thinking again.
Having an unclear mind to deal with uncontrollable things makes us unhappy.
Stay away from troubled places. "Out of sight, out of mind".

Be aware that things are all in our mind.
If we want to be unhappy, we will get it.
If we try our best to be happy, we will achieve it.

It is a matter of taking action.
Get rid of old habits if you find that they do you no good.
Remove Anything that irritates and destroy you.

We deserve a better live for we have only one life.

Cheers to us! Hip Hip Hooray!

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Happy Method | Target One Good Thing Everyday

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There are many ways to be happy.
However, if there is no plan and no focus, you will lost track of your happy vision.

One easy way to start the day is to have a target.
Choose a good thing that you want to achieve.
Just any random action or task that comes to your mind the instance you wake up.

It has to be comfortable and pleasant to do.
It could simply be a handshake to a new staff in your office, or a smile to the bus driver.

Just make it happen if given the chance.
Better still seize the chance, or create the opportunity if possible.

Action is the key word.
Make it happen, the good thing that you plan for.

You may start off having one, and growing to more if you like.

Over the days, you will find that you will have more "feedbacks".
These "feedbacks" are the paybacks that you planted all these days doing good things.

You will find yourself getting happier along the way.
It will be amazing. The outcome will be fantastic given the slight effort on your part.

This is a form of self-improvement.
An improvement on your mental health.

Try it today.
It's free.
It's easy.

It all depends on you.

Cheers! :)

Be happy.

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Individual Strength In Us

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Have you ever looked and compared yourself with others?

It is human nature to do that. But after comparing, what is the impact?

Do you feel good when you learned that your reference is better?

Everyone will not feel good, I suppose.

Does that make you inferior?

It depends on how you see this matter.

We all have individual strengths, as well as weakness.

No one is inferior. It is only the area or scope of comparison.

You may be less capable in one field but competent in another.

The main issue is that sometimes we do not know that.
Thus, exposure to many areas will increase our chance to discover this hidden talents of ours.

Knowing this fact that we have our own individual strengths will lead us to a better future.
The reverse of focusing on the weakness will be doomsday-imminent!

Stay positive and strive forge. We have our own usefulness in society.
Just discover them and apply what is necessary.
And do not forget to self-improve.
Improving oneself is key in this fast pace and ever-changing society.

Finally, know that we have a choice. Choose the better option. Choose the appropriate mindset.

We are the best we want ourselves to be.

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