Daring to Fail

Everybody longs and seeks for success. It makes them happy and comfortable.

If you ever ask anyone why they avoid failure, they will always give you a stern look.
Why?

Because it may seems that you are testing their level of self-esteem.

Failure does pull down confidence. It destroys plans. It drags your you down emotional for a period of time.
Who likes failure?

Thus doing new and unfamiliar task becomes an issue to be avoided. 
After all what is wrong being in a comfort zone? Nothing will be wrong, and nothing will fail.

Status quo. No change.

Then what?

Times do change and lifestyle, technology and many others changes everyday.

If there is no action on your part to explore new things, you will become history very fast.
Accept failure.

Accept the fact that doing new things will result in failure. This is where you start to learn.
This is where you will find fun!

Learning through failure is one way out of many methods to pick up something new. 
But is a common method to improve oneself.

Daring to fail is the key. Love failure. It exposes you honestly. You will be opened up. You will find that failure in your every eyes a wonderful thing to have. It lets you find the truth after the feedback.

Think over this. Be truthful to yourself. 
If there is no action and remaining with the present, or worst, the past, you will finally lost yourself to the ever-changing world.

Wake up friends. Do your part and dare to fail.   :-)

Understanding Imperfection

'
Since our school days, we are exposed to the number 100% which represents full mark or perfect score.

It is a wonderful thing to have. Almost everyone wants it.

Looking good is also a nice thing to have.
Barbie dolls are models for young girls to emulate.

We thus grow up in a "nice" world.

What then is imperfection?
Can you accept imperfection?

Demands in work for high standard these days aligns everyone for the perfection.
A slight deviation can be picked up and be the talk of the day.

To err is human.
Does this sound familiar?

Understanding imperfection is a realistic step to understanding people.

Though we do strive for the best, we need to know that we are not perfect.
A certain amount of slack will happen one time or another.

Do you blame yourself for any hiccups?
Try not.

Understand that you are afterall human.
You will feel better having this knowledge.

The key is to try your very best, but do not expect it to be perfect always.

Hope this article can lessen the pressure of daily life, and
to understand the meaning of being perfectly imperfect.

:-)

Sincerity Towards Others

.
We live in a world of ever-changing environment.
We meet different people now and then.

They exist anywhere. Be it the office, the school, the market, or even your neighbour.

Do you treat them like strangers?
Or do you welcome them into your life?

Relations are build not in one day.
To have strong bond and rappor, we need to know each other.

To break the ice, (in a fast way), we need to be sincere.

Sincere in the sense that we do not view each other with suspicious motive.
Treat them as they are, and accept them and align as we go on.

Understand that every people has their own personality, their own character and behaviour.

Being sincere opens up our defence to others.
It is mutual.
It may not be instant, but it will come.

The respect and trust for each other is an important part of human relationship.

Time will always tell if the person is really sincere or plain entertaining.

To treasure a specific relationship, practice sincerity.
It matters.

People are social beings. The sincerity will reciprocate, though maybe in another form.
But it will come. 

Happiness will also follow suit.

Have a happy sincere day ahead!
Cheers  :-D

.

Is Problems Useful?

*
Ever heard of Problem-based learning?

It implies some usefulness in having problems.

Everyone dread problems. It irritates.
We are all human, and human tends to aim for comfort.

Problems forces us to re-evaluate our thinking and concept.

Problems disturb the norm and smooth-flowing of process.

So how do you perceive it as useful when it has so many negative impact psychologically?

There is no hard and fast rule of re-looking at problems.
They have to be felt.
They have to be experienced.

One good way is to reflect on the final outcome after encountering problems.
Do they improve your performance?
Do they change your mindset or thinking for the better?
Do they force you to be more hardworking to explore new areas?

Or do they simple demoralise you?

Balance the positive and the negative impacts they do to you.
My bet is that they improve more than wack you down!

Problems are here to stay whether we like it or not.
It will come back and "remind" you of any wrong-doings.

Probems are not brakes in life. Problems are guidelines.

They align your directions when you deviates unknowingly.
They recall you back, in a harsh way.

To reduce your anxiety towards them, see them as aids than foes.
Be aware that they improve situations.

They disturbs because we, as humans, have mental inertia.
Not that they are of no good.

Change your mindset towards problem and you will definitely see a brighter and cheerful you.

Try it, and experience it.
It wil not be immediate.
Give yourself some time over a defined period of time.
Be consistent and alert to its goodness.

Seek for the learning points in problems.
Treat them well
and you will treat yourself well.

Cheers

:D

Be The Solution and Not The Problem

'
Problems abound but solutions are rare.

This is a known fact.

Thus to ease obstacles in your daily routine, seek to find solutions.

You will feel better and happier with this mindset.

Being of use to others is a great way to being happy.

Normally people reflect problems and simply wait for the solutions to them.
What will be done?
Nothing, if there is no intention to solve the issue.

Being the solution and getting rid of hindrance will serve us a long way.

Be proactive in looking for methods or techniques to create a conducive environment for life or work.

Change of mindset takes time.
But correct attitude has to come first.
With proper attitude, the inertia to start work will be lesser.


Hence, always remember
"BE the Solution and NOT the Problem".
Cheers!


:-)

Proper Coverage in Learning Stages

'
Learning comes in many stages. Everyone knows that.

Irregardless of whether the training is the formal or informal type. The various stages are there.

One stage leads to another.

If one stage is not properly analyzed or content appropriately understood, their concepts and principles within may not see real results.

This gaps in learning will flow over to the following stages and disaster will happen.
It may not appear immediately, and may even appear in another stage.

What does this mean?

Simply put, outcomes will not be complete.
Concepts may have to be revisited again when mistakes are exposed.

Why do these gaps happen?

Many factors, as you may have guessed.

Yes, human beings are complex.
No one learning style covers all.
And no topic fits only one style.

It is a case by case issue.
Only the person learning knows what is best for himself.

Attitude towards learning is the guide.

But one crucial mistake that is rather common is the "short-cut" method.
Trying to pull a fast one to get an academic paper may be the objective.
Is it proper?
Is it a right thing to do?

When things are not covered properly to an acceptable level of understanding, flaws in execution using the newly-learned knowledge will be there.

It may have small impact, if you are lucky.
But what if the otherwise? It could be an explosion!

Learning is no small matter.
Seriousness counts.
Attitude counts.
And hardworking counts.

Trying to complete the studies in a short time and taking advantage of others is a dangerous move.
It do not strengthen the correct objectives of the learning.
It strengthens, however, the wrong things.

Be prudent.
It is our learning and our brain and mind that are affected.
This is more so when you are in self-improvement programme.
You are on your own.

Think proper.

:-)

Focusing On The Positive Aspect

'
Everyday do you find yourself being bombarded with new things?

Do you often feel overloaded with information?

Or are you asked to carry out tasks meaningless to you?

To stay sane and happy, there is one thing you have to do.

==> Focus on the POSITIVE side of things.

In any situation, some goodies are hidden. It is up to us to look for them.

Let me tell you a real life story of mine.

I was once asked to dismantle a number of test jigs. I felt rotten, being asked to do things not in line with the main job in the production line. I was a trainee then, and such, this is a starting point, I presumed.

I performed the given assignment.

However, as I was taking apart the panels and connectors, I found out that the test jigs were hooked up in a special way. At that moment I discovered that I have learned a new thing without a teacher.

If I had closed my mind and attitude towards the "meaningless" task given, I would be skimming through a pile of rubbish. I would not notice the good stuff.

Later, I was asked to connect up a new tester for a new product, with another technician. I applied the method I picked up while dismantling the test jigs.

And surprise, the tester that I hooked up worked!
And my counterpart didn't!

From that experience, I discovered that no matter what task you do, focus on the bright side of things as it is lurking there to be discovered by us.

Focus on the positive aspect and not dwell on the dull side.

Cheers.

.

Honesty Removes Relational Barrier

Ever wonder why some people has more friends than others?

And that you find some people easier to talk to or you are comfortable talking to?

It may not be instantaneous, but comes after some period of knowing the person.

Why is it so?

One reason lies in that the person you dealt with consistently give you reliable and honest information. The information shared is straightly frank.

Or a honest answer without the need to dig into hidden agenda.

In these days of hectic and chaotic lifestyle, having a honest answer makes you feel comfortable. You need not have to think hard. There are more things and matters requiring your attention.

I believe all these scenarios are not unfamiliar to you.

Being truthful and honest has its value.

If you practice and believe in this form of behaviour, there is high chance that people will like you.
(This makes you happy).

You will have people approaching you for advice and help. You are deemed a "friend" where they can get reliable answer.

Honesty, thus, removes relational barrier. And indirectly it makes you a channel of communication.

This outcome do let you remain clean in your thoughts and behaviour towards others. People will   move with you. They trust your feedback.

Hence to have good companion, do the correct things and automatically, good things will come for you, including people who value you.

Practice that, and you will understand what I mean.

Cheers to honesty, and self-improvement for a better future.

:-)

Help Comes Only When Deserved

'
I believe you may have encountered situations where you want to help someone but something is holding you back?

When you wanted to step in and lend a helping hand, something tells you that you should not be doing that.
You will re-look at the situation and then realise that the person you are aiming for may well be better off left alone to fence for himself. He does not deserve anyone's help!

There may be times or most of the times, this person has some negative actions that caused troubles or a drag to others.
It could be a one-way action on the part of the helper (always).
It could be a huge effort to help with a simple task.

As times goes by, people comes to realise that something is wrong.

To seek help, and to deserve help, thus, is not a simple matter.
The person deserving help has to be one deemed to be wanting to help himself first.

He has to put in the correct amount of effort first, and upon meeting obstacle, seek for help.
This practice will result in people noticing it, and then willing to help.

Before help can come, you have to work for it.
After receiving the help, show gratefulness.
If there is a chance, return the favour or help.
The favour or help may not be to the helper, it could be to others in need of similar help or the knowledge gained as a result of the help received.

Help comes and goes. It has to be circulated.
Keeping it and not sharing it, leads to others stopping the help.

Think over this.
It is just simple logic of give and be grateful.

It is a form of self-improvement.

I believe you agree.

Cheers, and Happy New Year!
.

Dealing With Failures

Everyone do encounter failure one time or another. Facing it is dreadful. It hurts.

Do you run away from it?
Do you stay strong and face it head-on?

Yes, you may be strong and accept this failure. But what next?

Being able to face and accept failure is good, but is that the end?

Picking up from failure is the key issue, not just staying strong in the face of failure. 

Learning from the mistake made makes you a better person.
Being able to analyse the situation, and review the problem is enlightening to your future.
It makes you smarter.

It is the action taken after the failure that matters.
It is the standing up attitude after the fall that strengthens you.

Fear of failure is, thus, reduced if correct mental approach to it is practiced.

Understand that you cannot and surely cannot avoid making mistake.
Do not be shy.
Learn from sincere asking yourself whether you wish to hide from the fact or truth.

Keep learning and turn failure into a positive journey of self-improvement.

Happy learning.

:-D

Fear of Failure

*
What is failure?
How do you view failure?

Failure is a frightening word anyone detest.
Yet it cannot be avoided.

Since we cannot avoid or prevent this from happening, we have to have the courage to face it when it comes along.

Having the courage requires a mindset change.

Does failure needs hopeless?
No. It means that the result did not meet the desired outcome.

Not meeting the targeted objectives does not mean all is lost.
The experience along the way is one good lesson we picked up.

Failure is just a deviation of the intended path.
There is nothing to fear other than the looks of the naives.

Avoid them, for they are the fearful lot.

Jumping into the unknown is a potential risk in meeting failure.
New experience and exposure will be encountered.
New outlook of a certain topic or area of interest will happen.

All this expand your knowledge.

Failure, hence, is a good starting point for you to review your procedures and technique in approaching a goal.

Face it with a positive attitude.
More is gained rather than lost.
Ironically it seems but true!

Fear not failure as it teaches.

Take up any challenge when it comes.
Avoiding it is a no-no strategy.
Avoiding it means you are reversing back to your original status. Status quo!

Do you want living life with no excitement and no new experience?
It is boring.

Think over it.
Think about failure.
Is it that dreadful?
What is the most you can lose? Access the siutation.

Self-improvement is important.
Pull yourself out of the well and look at the beautiful happenings around you.
Learn and face failure squarely.
Love it!

And life will be better.

:-D

*

Why Character Matters?

*
Have you met people who are successful and rich?
Or people who are intellectually one up above you?

How is their character?
Do they give up easily?
Are they fighters?

Most of them, if you observe closely, stay true to their passion.
They do not give up as easily as others when they face obstacles.

They strike on. They read and find out answers.

Ultimately, everything boils down to character.

If you do strongly believe in yourself that you can make it, you will do whatever it takes.
This is character.

If you desire to be number one, and stay on to prepare and nurture with whatever material and resources you have, you have good self-improvement character.

It is the strength within yourself that pushes you on.
You eat humble pie to pursue knowledge.
This is not weakness but vision.

Clear vision comes from a determined character.
An inner voice within yourself calling for a meaningful life.

Hence do good not only to others but also to yourself.
Practice good behaviour and thought.
They will form into habits that will serve you into ripe age.

Therefore, aim for good character as it is the starting point for a better future.
:- D

.

State of Confusion

*
Confused?
This is a word everyone dislike and will try to avoid at all cost.

It creates an internal fear, a mental one.
It brings out an insecurity to anyone experiencing it.

"Something is wrong!"  The mind sends this message to its owner.

But is it that fearful?

I request you to think again.

If you know something is amiss, isn't it good?
Is it better than not even knowing something is getting misaligned?

A confused state is indirectly a good one.
It tells you that you have something to learn.

It prompts you to the fact that something in your mind does not match with another concept or fact that you already thought you understood.

The confusion is a signal for you to take action. It provides the chance for you to explore previous knowledge.

Hence when you are in a state of confusion, be happy! It is a good sign.
It sounds ironical. But this is not a joke!
I am sure anyone reading this understand my message.

Do not fear confusion if it happens.
Think back and try to piece up the puzzle.
If at any time you feel stressed, allow yourself time-off and come back again.

You have already won half the battle knowing that you are confused!

The answer or solution will come at an appropriate time if you did not give up.
Any way, if you have reached this state of confusion, you will not be someone who will give up the challenge easily.
Or am I wrong?
Comment please....

:D     Have a nice day being confuse.

.

Resting Is Beneficial To Us

.
Given the demanding pace of this new era, everyone may at times feel tired and stressful.

This is normal if you are human.

"Look ahead to see if you can last long", this is a common question that pops up often either through yourself or through your colleagues.

Health and the mental mind goes hand in hand.

The body supports the mind, as well as the mind supports the body.
As long as one party fails, the other suffers.

To keep both in check, we NEED to rest.
Taking a break occasionally is good and a must.

When you feel restless, it is time to cool down and rest the body and mind.

Recover for the future.

Work will never end.
Homework will be forever.
Assignment will always be waiting for you.

Your health WILL end.
Our mission is to make it last longer.

Learn to stay physically and mentally fit.
Take a break regularly.
Tell yourself that you deserve it.
It is not cheating on others.
It is life and death.

It is good for your future, to last long to continue to contribute.
It is to rest so that you will enjoy the coming life.

Take care and stay happy.

:) :D :)
*

What Is Happiness?

'
This is a simple question.

But not many can get the correct answer.

In fact, I do not think there is any correct answer.

Why so?

It is because I believe, happiness changes with time and is individual on a case-by-case basis.

Happiness is a journey and not an end.

Many factors come into making a person happy.
But they may not apply the next day.
They changes with the mood.

Realising this message will therefore be a good indicator of our mental and emotional behaviour besides that of other people we deal with.

We live in a society of people. Each individuals are unique. It is an amazing world we live in.

By looking on the bright side of things, we are better tuned to stay happy. If it is not so, at least, we are not that sad.

It is our mindset that plays with our emotion. We have a choice. We have a brain.
Unless we are unable to control our mental state, which at times are possible, we are "off" the track.

Keep this behavioural pattern in check, and practice with conscious awareness.

But all said, one important thing that will not change is "We are still human."

If you make any bad comments or mistakes that disturb others, sincerely apologise later on after you come back to normal.

This showed that you are human, and you will feel better (and happier). Others will respect you for it, as they also make mistakes and also wish to be forgiving and happy too.

:D

Happy Method | Target One Good Thing Everyday

'
There are many ways to be happy.
However, if there is no plan and no focus, you will lost track of your happy vision.

One easy way to start the day is to have a target.
Choose a good thing that you want to achieve.
Just any random action or task that comes to your mind the instance you wake up.

It has to be comfortable and pleasant to do.
It could simply be a handshake to a new staff in your office, or a smile to the bus driver.

Just make it happen if given the chance.
Better still seize the chance, or create the opportunity if possible.

Action is the key word.
Make it happen, the good thing that you plan for.

You may start off having one, and growing to more if you like.

Over the days, you will find that you will have more "feedbacks".
These "feedbacks" are the paybacks that you planted all these days doing good things.

You will find yourself getting happier along the way.
It will be amazing. The outcome will be fantastic given the slight effort on your part.

This is a form of self-improvement.
An improvement on your mental health.

Try it today.
It's free.
It's easy.

It all depends on you.

Cheers! :)

Be happy.

:)

Learning from Being Simple

.

I believe that many of you encounter difficulties one time or another.

It may be work. It may be studies or it may be human relationship.

The process leading to the complication can be annoying.
The information at times, may be overwhelming and exploding to the limits.
The decision-making task can be taxing and frightening.

You may be crying out for something simpler.

Is it possible?

Why not?

How?

One method is to rid yourself of everything, and see if you can survive without the things you deem necessary.

Learning from simplicity can rewarding.

Make do with whatever you have.

Go to an empty room and start to make a cup of water. You will see that all else, the trouble you are facing in your work, your life, your studies, etc, dissipates with the minor task of just having a cup of water from an empty room.

You will notice that you have put in too many demands on yourself to the extend that you are indirectly taxing yourself, and shortening your life.

Make life simple if you can.
There are times when the unnecessary becomes the necessary.
Is it so?

Review your needs as your go about your work, your studies, or whatever you do.

Reflection along the way is a good way to capture the important versus the desired but unnecessary.

Stay simple not in the physical (material) sense but also in the mental sense.

Acquiring knowledge is good if done in a peaceful manner.
If it is done to the extend of overload, then beware.

"Learn from simplicity".

It is just that. And simply that!

:-)

Be Realistic With Yourself and Others

There is a trap when you set goals for yourself and others.

Ambition and lack of patience may be the causes. Aiming too high without due concern for resources (time and necessary skills) can make or break the outcome.

Planning carefully, covering as many aspects of the objectives, will be a wiser approach when dealing with setting goals.

Ultimately, be realistic, especially when the outcome involves many others too.

Check the time frame to pick up new skills and the resources needed along the process.
Cater for the learning journey.
Factor in human behaviour towards challenging tasks.
Look into yourself,and your confidence level to complete the mission.

Be truly you.
Again, be realistic.

But what if the setting is fixed and has to progress on?

Firstly, do not point finger.
This will cause more harm than saving the situation. At times of this stressful condition, everyone needs motivation to get on.

Secondly, have an open communication.
Keeping to yourself and doing it alone will be tough. Communicate your ideas as you go along. Others may have better strategies to manage the problems or process. Open communication in the genuine sense, makes for better long-term rapport later on.
Even when no solutions can be found for the questions, as least you know that you have tried finding for one. Hunt for another approach. Internet, magazines, forum, etc are good places to get information leads.

Thirdly, know that you have to do it and avoid negative thoughts.
Staying positive is a good sign to progress. Negative thoughts will only pull you down or slow your down. Be strong. Know that you are a better person with every steps ahead. Even failure is a little lesson in itself. Staying stagnant, and blaming the situation is not productive. Things will not move forward if wrong thoughts fused into your thinking.

Being mature and realistic, though not easy, is also not difficult to handle. Just stay positive.
Self-motivate yourself consistently.

Even when the whole thing does not make it finally, I guarantee that you have achieve much internally through going the tough road. It is the strength within you that make a better you. Develop it!

Cheers to self-improvement!

.

Personal Character Matters

Have you ever come across someone who can do wonderful things, producing innovative products or speak very well?

Does he give you a good and deep impression?

Do you envy him for his work?

If all these came with the knowledge that he has bad character, how do you answer the above questions?

I believe everyone will like to have companion or friends that have good, acceptable personal character.

This is with disregard for his productivity or creativity.

If he is approachable and friendly, he will be accepted. Talking to him will be barrier-free.

When the person is nasty but can produce good results, he will only be treasure for his work. Nothing more beyond that. The respect accorded to him will be limited to the workplace.

Personal character matters and is a long term investment for anyone.

Example of caring for others and showing concern is a good virtue. It goes to show the internal beauty of a person. The character will be rewarded with sincere friends who will share their true views and opinion with you.

Good character is hard to come by, having to develop it through a long term consistent practice. It embeds into the mind of anyone who practice this.

Prudent people will value character more than actual outcome, besides business-sense.

:-D

Self-Improvement | Doing for Your Good

In this era of fast pace, high demanding life style, we are super robots to cater to many "wishes".

The "wishes" may come from our boss (if not only one), spouse, kids, colleagues, strangers, customers, and many more.

The constant demand to keep up with learning can be stressful at times.

"Why am I doing this?" is the common question residing behind the back of our mind.
"Have I to learn this?" is another popular question too.

The boss wants this and the customers want that.
The desire to satisfy the wants of people becomes meaningless if done improperly.

The proper way to think and handle this issue is to be clear of why we are doing this!

Whatever we learn, we learn it for ourselves.
It is to enable us to stay useful to society, especially in times of recession.
It allows us to contribute actively to our work and environment.

We are doing it for ourselves. We gain the value.
We feel complete.

We do not do it for our boss, and neither for others.

We learn to serve others through being productive and adding value.
We can do that only when we gain knowledge and skills.

It should be inner to external in approach.
The mindset should be to constantly improve and stay relevant.

This is the only guarantee for our meaningful stay on earth.
Do you agree?

:-)