Daring to Fail

Everybody longs and seeks for success. It makes them happy and comfortable.

If you ever ask anyone why they avoid failure, they will always give you a stern look.
Why?

Because it may seems that you are testing their level of self-esteem.

Failure does pull down confidence. It destroys plans. It drags your you down emotional for a period of time.
Who likes failure?

Thus doing new and unfamiliar task becomes an issue to be avoided. 
After all what is wrong being in a comfort zone? Nothing will be wrong, and nothing will fail.

Status quo. No change.

Then what?

Times do change and lifestyle, technology and many others changes everyday.

If there is no action on your part to explore new things, you will become history very fast.
Accept failure.

Accept the fact that doing new things will result in failure. This is where you start to learn.
This is where you will find fun!

Learning through failure is one way out of many methods to pick up something new. 
But is a common method to improve oneself.

Daring to fail is the key. Love failure. It exposes you honestly. You will be opened up. You will find that failure in your every eyes a wonderful thing to have. It lets you find the truth after the feedback.

Think over this. Be truthful to yourself. 
If there is no action and remaining with the present, or worst, the past, you will finally lost yourself to the ever-changing world.

Wake up friends. Do your part and dare to fail.   :-)

Be True to Your Belief

On a daily basis we are bombarded with many comments and views from others.

Some are encouraging while some are destructive.

Did you get demoralised?

Stay strong, if you have the urge to submit to the latter.

Why?
It is because if you go the way of accepting that you are "bad", you will lost your esteem as well as confidence.

Stay true to your own belief if you think that what you do is for the good of self and others.

Think and review your intention and desire for certain things that you have been doing that have gotten the red eye of others.

We cannot avoid the "speech" of people around us but we can choose to ignore or filter the "speech".

Believe in yourself.
It will make you trust yourself better and happier as a result.

Overtime, with much practice, you will find that you will have the strength to overturn the bad impact and smile over it.

So stay tune to your belief and stay sincere to your goodness self.

Cheers and forever happy.  :-)

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Be The Solution and Not The Problem

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Problems abound but solutions are rare.

This is a known fact.

Thus to ease obstacles in your daily routine, seek to find solutions.

You will feel better and happier with this mindset.

Being of use to others is a great way to being happy.

Normally people reflect problems and simply wait for the solutions to them.
What will be done?
Nothing, if there is no intention to solve the issue.

Being the solution and getting rid of hindrance will serve us a long way.

Be proactive in looking for methods or techniques to create a conducive environment for life or work.

Change of mindset takes time.
But correct attitude has to come first.
With proper attitude, the inertia to start work will be lesser.


Hence, always remember
"BE the Solution and NOT the Problem".
Cheers!


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Honesty Removes Relational Barrier

Ever wonder why some people has more friends than others?

And that you find some people easier to talk to or you are comfortable talking to?

It may not be instantaneous, but comes after some period of knowing the person.

Why is it so?

One reason lies in that the person you dealt with consistently give you reliable and honest information. The information shared is straightly frank.

Or a honest answer without the need to dig into hidden agenda.

In these days of hectic and chaotic lifestyle, having a honest answer makes you feel comfortable. You need not have to think hard. There are more things and matters requiring your attention.

I believe all these scenarios are not unfamiliar to you.

Being truthful and honest has its value.

If you practice and believe in this form of behaviour, there is high chance that people will like you.
(This makes you happy).

You will have people approaching you for advice and help. You are deemed a "friend" where they can get reliable answer.

Honesty, thus, removes relational barrier. And indirectly it makes you a channel of communication.

This outcome do let you remain clean in your thoughts and behaviour towards others. People will   move with you. They trust your feedback.

Hence to have good companion, do the correct things and automatically, good things will come for you, including people who value you.

Practice that, and you will understand what I mean.

Cheers to honesty, and self-improvement for a better future.

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State of Confusion

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Confused?
This is a word everyone dislike and will try to avoid at all cost.

It creates an internal fear, a mental one.
It brings out an insecurity to anyone experiencing it.

"Something is wrong!"  The mind sends this message to its owner.

But is it that fearful?

I request you to think again.

If you know something is amiss, isn't it good?
Is it better than not even knowing something is getting misaligned?

A confused state is indirectly a good one.
It tells you that you have something to learn.

It prompts you to the fact that something in your mind does not match with another concept or fact that you already thought you understood.

The confusion is a signal for you to take action. It provides the chance for you to explore previous knowledge.

Hence when you are in a state of confusion, be happy! It is a good sign.
It sounds ironical. But this is not a joke!
I am sure anyone reading this understand my message.

Do not fear confusion if it happens.
Think back and try to piece up the puzzle.
If at any time you feel stressed, allow yourself time-off and come back again.

You have already won half the battle knowing that you are confused!

The answer or solution will come at an appropriate time if you did not give up.
Any way, if you have reached this state of confusion, you will not be someone who will give up the challenge easily.
Or am I wrong?
Comment please....

:D     Have a nice day being confuse.

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Resting Is Beneficial To Us

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Given the demanding pace of this new era, everyone may at times feel tired and stressful.

This is normal if you are human.

"Look ahead to see if you can last long", this is a common question that pops up often either through yourself or through your colleagues.

Health and the mental mind goes hand in hand.

The body supports the mind, as well as the mind supports the body.
As long as one party fails, the other suffers.

To keep both in check, we NEED to rest.
Taking a break occasionally is good and a must.

When you feel restless, it is time to cool down and rest the body and mind.

Recover for the future.

Work will never end.
Homework will be forever.
Assignment will always be waiting for you.

Your health WILL end.
Our mission is to make it last longer.

Learn to stay physically and mentally fit.
Take a break regularly.
Tell yourself that you deserve it.
It is not cheating on others.
It is life and death.

It is good for your future, to last long to continue to contribute.
It is to rest so that you will enjoy the coming life.

Take care and stay happy.

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Individual Strength In Us

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Have you ever looked and compared yourself with others?

It is human nature to do that. But after comparing, what is the impact?

Do you feel good when you learned that your reference is better?

Everyone will not feel good, I suppose.

Does that make you inferior?

It depends on how you see this matter.

We all have individual strengths, as well as weakness.

No one is inferior. It is only the area or scope of comparison.

You may be less capable in one field but competent in another.

The main issue is that sometimes we do not know that.
Thus, exposure to many areas will increase our chance to discover this hidden talents of ours.

Knowing this fact that we have our own individual strengths will lead us to a better future.
The reverse of focusing on the weakness will be doomsday-imminent!

Stay positive and strive forge. We have our own usefulness in society.
Just discover them and apply what is necessary.
And do not forget to self-improve.
Improving oneself is key in this fast pace and ever-changing society.

Finally, know that we have a choice. Choose the better option. Choose the appropriate mindset.

We are the best we want ourselves to be.

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Mindset of Trying

I was talking to a young girl one day about fish feeding.

She asked "Can we feed the fish using wooden sawdust?"

I was shocked at the question, and replied "No!, the fishes may die?"

She responded "Have you tried?"

This forced me to ponder for a moment.

What this young girl asked was a very important message in life.

Sometimes in life, if we do not try, we will not get the answer.

What surprised me further is the young girl's following statement...

She, with a clear voice, stated
"Sometimes a CAN becomes a CANNOT because we never try."

It rings a bell in my mind. A clear statement, and an intelligent one!

Yes, a mindset of trying is a valuable asset we need to embrace.
Without trying, everything remains the same. There will not be any improvement. Life goes on without excitement and new inventions.

But with trying, we can at least be assured that new things, concepts or ideas are generated. Even if they are not applied now, there will be in the future.

Think about it.

(I wonder if there is anymore such young girls around.)
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Be Realistic With Yourself and Others

There is a trap when you set goals for yourself and others.

Ambition and lack of patience may be the causes. Aiming too high without due concern for resources (time and necessary skills) can make or break the outcome.

Planning carefully, covering as many aspects of the objectives, will be a wiser approach when dealing with setting goals.

Ultimately, be realistic, especially when the outcome involves many others too.

Check the time frame to pick up new skills and the resources needed along the process.
Cater for the learning journey.
Factor in human behaviour towards challenging tasks.
Look into yourself,and your confidence level to complete the mission.

Be truly you.
Again, be realistic.

But what if the setting is fixed and has to progress on?

Firstly, do not point finger.
This will cause more harm than saving the situation. At times of this stressful condition, everyone needs motivation to get on.

Secondly, have an open communication.
Keeping to yourself and doing it alone will be tough. Communicate your ideas as you go along. Others may have better strategies to manage the problems or process. Open communication in the genuine sense, makes for better long-term rapport later on.
Even when no solutions can be found for the questions, as least you know that you have tried finding for one. Hunt for another approach. Internet, magazines, forum, etc are good places to get information leads.

Thirdly, know that you have to do it and avoid negative thoughts.
Staying positive is a good sign to progress. Negative thoughts will only pull you down or slow your down. Be strong. Know that you are a better person with every steps ahead. Even failure is a little lesson in itself. Staying stagnant, and blaming the situation is not productive. Things will not move forward if wrong thoughts fused into your thinking.

Being mature and realistic, though not easy, is also not difficult to handle. Just stay positive.
Self-motivate yourself consistently.

Even when the whole thing does not make it finally, I guarantee that you have achieve much internally through going the tough road. It is the strength within you that make a better you. Develop it!

Cheers to self-improvement!

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Elder Does Not Mean Better

As we grow older, we experienced more things and events. These causes us to have more knowledge and the ability to give good judgement and advise.

But does it necessary be true all the times?

This question crossed my mind when I witnessed a case involving a parent teaching her daughter upper elementary math.

The daughter was trying to avoid a certain math question that involves ratio. The mother seeing the problem confronted the kid and discover that the question was challenging.

She tried to work that out thinking that at an upper elementary level, the math question should not be difficult to solve,and was wondering why the kid was "running"away from it.

Half an hour passed by with the mother still struggling with the question. Some thing went really wrong!

What was surprising was that the daughter sensing that her mother wasn't able to solve it, took up the challenge instead of avoiding it now.

After staring at the paper for about 3 minutes or so, she wrote something out of logic, something not that mathematical, but with the answer from only 4 steps of working.

She outdid her mother!

What this event proved was that given the correct attitude, any person can come out better solution and idea. Experience is good but not all.

It also goes to show that one have to keep on learning and staying mentally active. It does not always mean that being elderly has the call and advantage.

It is a race and everyone can catch up with you at any time. Fierce message, right?

Do not despair. Just do what is right and proper. It is sufficient to keep you happy and comfortable. Cheers!

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Scaling New Heights

When you remain in the same place too long, or is doing the same old things over and over again,
try something new.

It can also means travelling a different route, taking different bus, reading books written by another author, or simply listening to a song sung by another singer.

Why do that?

It will, of course, give you a different perspective to life. It will expose you to another new dimension to a perceived view. More information will be captured to give you that capability.

Scaling new heights is the keyword.

Reach for new level in your understanding of certain things, people, knowledge or any areas of personal interest.

The benefits are not limited to widening your view, it gives you more confidence in engaging in casual talks. It encourages you to meet more people. It widens your scope in life!

Looking at things from another angle is also a form of scaling new heights. Just a bit of mind-twisting, and you will discover a bright new picture never thought of.

Activate your sleepy mind. Do not allow it to freely run into the normally travelled path.

Kick your thinking and shift your thoughts to a side-walk, a path less travelled. Move it to explore new ideas and practice. You will discover that you can see and do interesting things. In fact, everyone can do it.

Only through effort comes rewards. And the rewards will be treasured by you, for they are discovered by tracking on new grounds. Break out from the conventional comfort zone!

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Motivational Factor

Everyone needs motivation at times.

This is especially so when you are exhausted and need a bit of an emotional push to get you on.

However, motivation come in two forms, namely, short term and the long term motivation.

Short term may be linked to completing a task or studies. You just need a praise from someone to get on with the work, or a token of appreciation to hammer on.

Long term motivation is the more critical form of the two.

This motivation is the one that drives you on throughout your life.

Is money a factor of motivation?
Or it is knowledge?
Does power and authority excites you?

These are some of the examples of motivation factors that you question yourself.

Until you know very well what drives you on, you will be confuse about your direction in life.

You may be wandering from getting power to capturing knowledge, and then moving on to earning more money. What is your dominant motivational factor?

To achieve self-improvement successful, you need to identify this crucial item in yourself.

Only through self-evaluation and reviewing of your interest and inclination, you can then know what really matter to you.

It can be a hybrid between all, but the one that ignites you, when you are down, has to be the one that you are comfortable with.

Thus to be on the path of improvement, seek this motivational factor of yours. This will then be your guiding beam to lead you onto the path of wonders.

Being truthful is happiness.

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Avoidance Mindset

It is human nature to avoid difficulties when given the chance.

We will find all sorts of excuses to cover our fears and weaknesses.

If there is a shortcut to get way or solve the issue, we will go for it.

We avoid problems!

However, are we doing ourselves a disservice?

Yes, we fear trouble.
We may not be able to face the consequences of failure.
We dare not accept the fact that we are weak. It affects our pride and confidence.

But, honestly, speaking, what do we get out of avoiding?

The answer is that we stay put. Status quo. No progress.

To move forward and accept whatever challenge that we face is in the long run, good for us.
We are moving closer to a better us. We may not reach it in one step, or in one assigned task or project.

But we are at least closer than if we avoid it totally.
We are improving at whatever pace, if we do not avoid the challenge.

Be brave and strive ahead in the name of self-improvement.
We will be happier in the end.

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Loving Yourself

Self-inflicted injuries means not loving yourself.

Why cause harm to yourself?

Don't you treasure yourself?

The injuries may not be physical but emotional.

Self-blame can cause injuries to your soul.

It is damaging. With constant blaming, you will spiral downwards.

Love yourself.

If you have tried your best, you will fully understand that whatever failure that follow suit can not be excused.

Even if others do not accept your excuse, you are the best person to accept it yourself.

No one is better in understanding you than yourself.

If you have your reason for doing a particular thing, you are the best person to know why.
No words can clearly express what you think.

Therefore, love yourself and take care of yourself.

You are the only one in the world. The are no TWO you.

As long as you think you are sincere and good in doing, praise yourself. No need for others to chip in. It will only be a bonus if they do that.

Having this mindset will enable you to love yourself well, independent of external factors.
In this way, you will strive to improve and treasure yourself more.

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Acknowledging That Not All Will Like You

Do you try to please everyone ?

Do you like to make friends by catering to their needs?

Do you wish to be liked by everyone?

Though the answer is a YES, it is not possible in real life.

Is it that important to be liked or loved?

We live in a world full of emotional people. People have their own likes and dislikes. We should not impose our desire onto others. Therefore, we should not expect others to do like us.

They have a choice.

Knowing this is good.

At least you will feel better.

But most importantly, LIKE YOURSELF.

This is the best that you can do.

:-) Cheers to yourself. Hurray!

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Travel The Unventured Path

In this world, there are many people lost about what to do. They follow others. They see and scout out the successful to emulate.

They model after them to hopefully gain the same results. They "act" like them. They do what their targets do. They try to think the way they think. The hope is that, at least, the result is apparent and achievable, if they follow the method.

It is NOT wrong to do that.
It is fine and good for starters.
Everything is new and has value to these learners.

But to be really successful and unique in living in this world, you have to bear one thing in mind.
This one thing will have an everlasting impression on your experience.

What is this thing or message?

I would like to share it here.

"To be successful, do not follow the path set by others, the proven path once travelled by others.
Go travel the path that has yet to be ventured upon. Leave trail for others. Set the lead."

Creating the path for others means going into the unknown. A path of discoveries and mysteries proves to be real experience where you have to solve problem that may not have the solution.

You have to find the solutions! You have to break the unknown to form the known. Exciting isn't it!

Get out from the comfort zone and self-improve yourself. Travel the unventured path or journey and you will sure learn more than anyone in that selected area or field.

Any exposure will lead to learning and, definitely, new experience. This is so because everything within this unknown path will be new to you.

Thus, in conclusion, to travel a path that has yet to be set upon is a valuable learning journey that will create a better you. The bonus through the hard work is that you will leave trails for others to follow and you to be remember upon by others. How great that will be!

Cheers for learning.

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Being Me

We interact with many people daily.
We are influenced mentally somewhat with these numerous interactions carried out.

Do we change with these influences?
Inevitable, but to what extent, is the main issue.

Sometimes, we do wish to be like the best person we met on that particular day.
Sometimes, we do wish to be as pretty as that lady we met on the street.
Sometimes, we like to emulate the person we deem successful.

These wishes are not wrong. For a start, if I have to be clear.

Yes, we do want to be as pretty and successful as anyone of that category.

But are we then running our own life? Or living anther life?
Have we lost ourselves if we "pretend" to be like them?

For a start, in fact, it can be better if we can find a role model to follow and learn from. It will enable us to jump start the learning process and shorten the improvement phase as a result.

But after having achieve that, do we have to stick on with the emulated style?

Being me means living our own life. To be able to customised our desires and goals from the reference set by others.This reference is the role model that we have initially selected to follow and learned.

We can modify the approach to solving problems to suit our character and style. We can improved on the learned technique and re-define the scope from the initial reference.

However, being me is also being comfortable with our inner self. Not being able to catch up with the rest does not means we are not good. It means we DO NOT WANT to catch up in that direction.

Comparing ourselves with the "better" ones is good if we are only taking reference.
We are not going to be them.
We need to be ourselves.
This is the important message.

Self-improvement does not mean being better than others.
It means being better than our past self.

This way, we remain ourselves, and an improved self.

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Select Your Beliefs

We have many beliefs. They decides where we go. Beliefs are good as they provides us with the momentum to progress in our desire direction. With the direction set, we will sooner or later arrive at our goals.

However, there are times where we seem to be lost. What seem to hold us back?

It is our beliefs again. Some beliefs of ours are actually performing against our benefit. It deters or inhibit us from progress in the correct sense. It put negative effect into our behaviour. It stops us from good progress.

How to rectify this situation?

The following tips may be useful:

• Keep an awareness of our progress direction periodically.
• Question our own comfort level in dealing with certain matters.
• Identify the beliefs within us and classify them.
• Check to see if the beliefs are positive or negative through the direction or progress we have.

After going through the review of our beliefs, we should be aware of which beliefs are holding us back in certain area of improvement. Some are bad and some are good.

Leave the bad beliefs and strengthen the good ones. This will hopefully guide us in the proper direction towards our goals. It may be an iterative progress and continuous monitoring is necessary.

Do ourself justice ! If the beliefs are deterimental to our improvement or positive progress, why should we be keeping them? Discard them. Replace them with good ones.