A Simple Way To Improve

When you are lost in a small island, do you improve fast, if at all?

The answer is obviously NO.

Why?

It is because you are alone with limited resources.
What you have maybe, rocks, sands, trees, insects, etc.

Day in and day out, you will be looking at them.
Your mind will go stagnant with nothing changing day after day.

So to improve yourself, you need information.

The information can be the latest updates or past historical matters.

What drives you to think and improvise is knowledge.

Knowledge comes from information.
When there is lack of information, how else can you get knowledge?

Thus, it will be nice to capture as many information as you can to expand your database or knowledge base. And with that you will be on the way to being a better person and an improved one.

It is just that simple.

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Honestly Living

I believe everyone has done things against your conscious.

You are not willing, but circumstances forced you to do it.

How do you feel?
Do you feel good or rotten?

The answer is clear and obvious.

Why do you feel bad?
It is because you have a conscious. A knowledge that you are tied down by rules and regulations.

Then how?
Should you continue with it and stay on doing things against your wish?

You can choose to change your environment and rid yourself of the nasty tasks. But this may be temporary. Similar happenings may surface again in your new environment.

As long as there are people, you will face this sort of things sooner or later.

What is more permanent is the handling of your feelings.

Look towards the bright side of things.
Accepting that this is part of living.
Change your mindset towards the task.
Know that you are doing something fine though it is not to your liking.

Be honest with yourself. Seek understanding from yourself.

If the task is way above your ability to handle emotionally, drop it for the sake of a long-term merit.

Remember that practice makes perfect.
If you practice staying with things you dislike, you will perfect staying with things you dislike!

Live honestly. You have only one life. Be truthful with yourself.

Don't force yourself too much if the going is too tough for you to take, especially if it goes against your principles.

You may lost something temporarily from the defiance, but you stand to gain in the long-run.
Be prudence, though.
Stay rationale. Think before you leap.

"Be honest and live honestly with yourself" should be your guide.

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Scaling New Heights

When you remain in the same place too long, or is doing the same old things over and over again,
try something new.

It can also means travelling a different route, taking different bus, reading books written by another author, or simply listening to a song sung by another singer.

Why do that?

It will, of course, give you a different perspective to life. It will expose you to another new dimension to a perceived view. More information will be captured to give you that capability.

Scaling new heights is the keyword.

Reach for new level in your understanding of certain things, people, knowledge or any areas of personal interest.

The benefits are not limited to widening your view, it gives you more confidence in engaging in casual talks. It encourages you to meet more people. It widens your scope in life!

Looking at things from another angle is also a form of scaling new heights. Just a bit of mind-twisting, and you will discover a bright new picture never thought of.

Activate your sleepy mind. Do not allow it to freely run into the normally travelled path.

Kick your thinking and shift your thoughts to a side-walk, a path less travelled. Move it to explore new ideas and practice. You will discover that you can see and do interesting things. In fact, everyone can do it.

Only through effort comes rewards. And the rewards will be treasured by you, for they are discovered by tracking on new grounds. Break out from the conventional comfort zone!

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Safe Way To React When Lost In Decision-Making

There are plenty of decisions to be made daily. Some are critical while some as not.

Mentally the decisions may be easy or they may be tough.

Some decisions are for long-term purpose while some are short-term in nature.

Good decision making skill is therefore needed and crucial for anyone.

Experience is a major factor in making good decision that has less disruption and is effective.

But there are times when we are totally lost. It may be due to confusion, or not having a good rest the previous night,or there may be family problems, etc.

How should we handle this situation?

We are all human to start off. No blaming or negative thoughts to the inability to make a decision should come into the picture.

Understand the situation and the impact of the decision.

If it is not time critical, leave it for further consideration. Know that a quick and rush decision is not a good choice. Wait till more information can be gathered to assist in making the decision.
Ensure that the mind is clear before a good-quality direction can be decided.
Re-visit the consideration only when you are comfortable and fine, and ready.

Talk to more people involved with similar incidents, and analyse their experience.
Balance the pro and cons. Be "real" and honest.
Question whether you are able to absorb the failure when outcome does not meet expectation.

No point in getting through a decision-making for the sake to satisfy and close the case.
The outcome may come back and haunt you later on. Be realistic and be responsible.

When the decision is time-sensitive, use your available knowledge with advise from anyone present, if possible, to come out with a conclusion. A safe way is to give a temporary answer to move forward but allow for adjustment when more information pours in.

After that, realise that you have done your best, given the tight situation. Praise yourself and prepare to monitor the process.

In these days of hectic schedule, "trying your best" is a key word. Learn and gather as much information as possible during normal time for the purpose of making better decision when the time calls for it.

Do be honest and factor in realistic, down-to-earth information before committing to a decision.

Be happy after that.
Cheers to better decision-making.

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Motivational Factor

Everyone needs motivation at times.

This is especially so when you are exhausted and need a bit of an emotional push to get you on.

However, motivation come in two forms, namely, short term and the long term motivation.

Short term may be linked to completing a task or studies. You just need a praise from someone to get on with the work, or a token of appreciation to hammer on.

Long term motivation is the more critical form of the two.

This motivation is the one that drives you on throughout your life.

Is money a factor of motivation?
Or it is knowledge?
Does power and authority excites you?

These are some of the examples of motivation factors that you question yourself.

Until you know very well what drives you on, you will be confuse about your direction in life.

You may be wandering from getting power to capturing knowledge, and then moving on to earning more money. What is your dominant motivational factor?

To achieve self-improvement successful, you need to identify this crucial item in yourself.

Only through self-evaluation and reviewing of your interest and inclination, you can then know what really matter to you.

It can be a hybrid between all, but the one that ignites you, when you are down, has to be the one that you are comfortable with.

Thus to be on the path of improvement, seek this motivational factor of yours. This will then be your guiding beam to lead you onto the path of wonders.

Being truthful is happiness.

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Understanding Others

Confucius once said " It is not the understanding of us by others, but the understanding of others by us that matters".

To know how others think and react is a skill everyone should have to live harmoniously together. We live in a community of people.

People have their own thoughts and interpretations of events happening daily. They form and educate themselves through these daily encounters.

Each and everyone, thus, grow in diversified direction with clash of ideas at times.

There is no right or wrong. Each has their own explanation to outcomes and happenings.

So how do we judge others?
Or should we let others judge us?

If you are honest and up-right, there is no fear of being mis-understood by others in the long run. They may get the wrong impression initially, but overtime, they will realise who you are.

Therefore, is it important to market ourselves aggressively and hope that others will appreciate us?

Rather than wanting people to understand us, why not spend time understanding others?

Knowing people around us and their in-depth personalities, will help us maintain a good relation with them. Rapport and mutual co-operation can then exist. Teamwork will be enhanced as a result. Frictions will be reduced through the close understanding of others and their behaviours.

Therefore , strive to look into others rather than creating opportunities for others to look into you. They will want to know you if they find your desirable. Fear not.

Stay happy and cheerful for a lively future....

:) Mary had a little lamb, little lamb........

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Avoidance Mindset

It is human nature to avoid difficulties when given the chance.

We will find all sorts of excuses to cover our fears and weaknesses.

If there is a shortcut to get way or solve the issue, we will go for it.

We avoid problems!

However, are we doing ourselves a disservice?

Yes, we fear trouble.
We may not be able to face the consequences of failure.
We dare not accept the fact that we are weak. It affects our pride and confidence.

But, honestly, speaking, what do we get out of avoiding?

The answer is that we stay put. Status quo. No progress.

To move forward and accept whatever challenge that we face is in the long run, good for us.
We are moving closer to a better us. We may not reach it in one step, or in one assigned task or project.

But we are at least closer than if we avoid it totally.
We are improving at whatever pace, if we do not avoid the challenge.

Be brave and strive ahead in the name of self-improvement.
We will be happier in the end.

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